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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 19747" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Originally Posted By: Janna</p><p>You know, I'm on the other side of you now, as the mom, not the foster, although I'm not abusive, never did drugs, and placed difficult child 2, not had him taken. But, I cannot imagine not having reunification as the goal.</p><p></p><p>Janna, I know without a doubt that you did NOT take this as a comparison. TRUST ME.....you and difficult child's BM are polar opposites. From what I was told she did ok as a mom (relatively speaking) while the kids were still little and cute. When they got older, started to talk and demand things as kids do.....she couldn't, no..she WOULDN'T do it. She couldn't just put them in a play pen or their crib and walk away. Now they were old enough to follow and "bug" her. Right after we got difficult child, I took him to the doctor for a physical and discovered that his feet were curved. (They've since straightened out). The doctor said that most likely this was from him setting in front of the tv (legs crossed underneath him) long term. (classic of neglected kids maybe??) </p><p></p><p>By saying she did the reunificaion goals HER way, I mean that she only did what SHE thought was enough and by G** that should be enough. (and wouldn't you know it......difficult child is the <u>exact same way</u>. When he has to face a consequence or make up for something he's done or said, he thinks it should be by HIS idea of what it should take, not someone elses's.) This is a woman who's kids were her property and not gifts. Not to open a totally different can of worms but another reason I don't like her and others like her is that until she got her tubes tied, she could get pregnant whenever she wanted and in my opinion, is one that should never be allowed to raise kids. ***holds out hand to be slapped***.... I know...... I shouldn't say things like that but that's something that has always burned my b u t t.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 19747, member: 2459"] Originally Posted By: Janna You know, I'm on the other side of you now, as the mom, not the foster, although I'm not abusive, never did drugs, and placed difficult child 2, not had him taken. But, I cannot imagine not having reunification as the goal. Janna, I know without a doubt that you did NOT take this as a comparison. TRUST ME.....you and difficult child's BM are polar opposites. From what I was told she did ok as a mom (relatively speaking) while the kids were still little and cute. When they got older, started to talk and demand things as kids do.....she couldn't, no..she WOULDN'T do it. She couldn't just put them in a play pen or their crib and walk away. Now they were old enough to follow and "bug" her. Right after we got difficult child, I took him to the doctor for a physical and discovered that his feet were curved. (They've since straightened out). The doctor said that most likely this was from him setting in front of the tv (legs crossed underneath him) long term. (classic of neglected kids maybe??) By saying she did the reunificaion goals HER way, I mean that she only did what SHE thought was enough and by G** that should be enough. (and wouldn't you know it......difficult child is the <u>exact same way</u>. When he has to face a consequence or make up for something he's done or said, he thinks it should be by HIS idea of what it should take, not someone elses's.) This is a woman who's kids were her property and not gifts. Not to open a totally different can of worms but another reason I don't like her and others like her is that until she got her tubes tied, she could get pregnant whenever she wanted and in my opinion, is one that should never be allowed to raise kids. ***holds out hand to be slapped***.... I know...... I shouldn't say things like that but that's something that has always burned my b u t t. [/QUOTE]
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