I am wondering what other people do with difficult child's strategizing about the benefits of college. As I wrote in my past post, Peter Pan (I've decided they need names) is about to finish the quarter at a school where he's been enrolled in 2 classes only as part of his being in a step-down program where taking classes was part of the recovery plan. He was booted out of the step-down, and at my urging (a mistake, no doubt), they made an arrangement with the college whereby he could stay in the dorms to finish the quarter, and I agreed to pay on the condition that he remain in treatment--seeing a therapist at least 2x/week, medications monitored by psychiatrist, etc. He blew that off and has been seeing a counselor at the health center 1x/week who says that he is out of it and hardly functioning. I had not heard from Peter Pan in almost a month when he called me yesterday at work to say he was on his way in to the housing office to discuss staying at the school next quarter, and he needed me to tell the housing person that I would pay for it. I pointed out all the obvious problems with his approach and reiterated that my offer was to pay for treatment, not school; I don't think he's ready to be a successful student. I was in conference and couldn't continue this conversation, but got voicemail later that he's going back to the housing office today and plans to call me beforehand. I have no doubt that he will use the sacrosanct "benefits of education" as his argument (disclosure: I am a teacher). My plan is to remind him that he is 21; that I am not keeping him from getting an education; that if he really wants to take classes, he can get a job and apply for student loans and take care of his debts and take classes. He doesn't want this, of course. He wants a roof over his head and 3 meals a day while he plays online poker. But he will lay a serious guilt trip on me. He will remind me how I said I believed in education and I was in his corner when it came to working on a degree, and now I'm going back on my word etc etc etc. All of this--ALL of it--is in bad faith, but he's pretty good at self-deception as well. When I tell him no, no, a thousand times no, he will be homeless in a week. How have other people dealt with this?