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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 40010" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>I had an eating disorder when I was in high school. Luckily for me, it only lasted about 2 years. There is a disorder, or rather, I like to call it a complex, called BDD. This is where one is gone WAY past the point of the typical "IM FAT" assumption that most girls her age are going through. This goes on to the point that when she looks in the mirror, she doesn't even SEE herself as she is and thinks she's fat, she may actually look in the mirror and see a double chin (that isn't really there) or a fat roll in her belly (that isn't really there either) or a behind that is much to large for her liking even if it really is perfect the way it is. </p><p></p><p>The fact that she is still eating at times and she is already recognizing that she is "anorexic" makes me think that maybe she is toying with the idea of trying it out to see if it will help her feel better about herself to NOT eat. But in the end, her willpower gives out and she gets hungry and decides to go ahead and eat. That being said, I don't know your daughter and I really can't say if this is what is really going on or not, but in my opinion that is what it sounds like. And if she really IS still in the beginning stages and simply toying with the idea, let me give you a tidbit of info that you can pass along to her. </p><p></p><p>No matter how much weight I lost, I never felt better about myself. Then on top of that, I was always crankier because I was hungry when I chose not to eat...and when I finally decided that anorexia wasn't the answer because I was simply too interested in eating, I thought bulemia was a better choice for me. It caused me many health problems, I was constantly sick from eating too much and then making myself sick, my stomach was always in knots from "purging" and from the diarhea associated with abusing laxatives. And it has SERIOUS LONG TERM CONSEQUENCES. Now at age 23, I have serious dental problems because frequent vomitting leaves acidic residue that gets up under your gums where you simply CANNOT reach with a toothbrush and decalcify's your teeth to the point they turn soft and flake off in tiny pieces until there are huge holes in your teeth right inside the gumline, which is PAINFUL to have and EVEN MORE PAINFUL TO TREAT because in order to correct this problem, they have to separate your gums from your teeth...etc. Also, I am no longer physically capable of vomitting when I genuinely AM sick, which generally like with the flu, as unpleasant as it is to vomit, usually afterwards there is a short period of releif of the nausea...but if you simply CANNOT throw up, there is NO break from the nausea and it seems to get worse becuase all that grossness is stuck inside and has no way to get out...</p><p></p><p>Not trying to scare her, but maybe sharing someone's personal experience will help her understand that if she really wants to ensure that she isn't "fat" her best bet is a good diet and excercise. You mentioned that she IS taking vitamins, which is a GREAT thing, and you must continue to be sure she takes them, just in case, because this will help supplement the nutrients she will be missing if she isn't eating, or if she is purging all her food too quickly after eating for any of it to soak in. </p><p></p><p>Also, if you fear that she is vomitting up her meals...when I was in treatment, and even after I got home from treatment, I was required to SING anytime I went to the bathroom so that it was evident that I was not making myself sick. You simply cannot puke and sing at the same time, so it is a good way to know for sure. :smile:</p><p></p><p>Good luck, eating disorders are serious, and they are scary. No matter what, I would rather assume it is serious and find out it wasnt than to write it off as a ploy for attention and find out later that it is much worse than you thought.</p><p></p><p>I will be thinking of you!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 40010, member: 3527"] I had an eating disorder when I was in high school. Luckily for me, it only lasted about 2 years. There is a disorder, or rather, I like to call it a complex, called BDD. This is where one is gone WAY past the point of the typical "IM FAT" assumption that most girls her age are going through. This goes on to the point that when she looks in the mirror, she doesn't even SEE herself as she is and thinks she's fat, she may actually look in the mirror and see a double chin (that isn't really there) or a fat roll in her belly (that isn't really there either) or a behind that is much to large for her liking even if it really is perfect the way it is. The fact that she is still eating at times and she is already recognizing that she is "anorexic" makes me think that maybe she is toying with the idea of trying it out to see if it will help her feel better about herself to NOT eat. But in the end, her willpower gives out and she gets hungry and decides to go ahead and eat. That being said, I don't know your daughter and I really can't say if this is what is really going on or not, but in my opinion that is what it sounds like. And if she really IS still in the beginning stages and simply toying with the idea, let me give you a tidbit of info that you can pass along to her. No matter how much weight I lost, I never felt better about myself. Then on top of that, I was always crankier because I was hungry when I chose not to eat...and when I finally decided that anorexia wasn't the answer because I was simply too interested in eating, I thought bulemia was a better choice for me. It caused me many health problems, I was constantly sick from eating too much and then making myself sick, my stomach was always in knots from "purging" and from the diarhea associated with abusing laxatives. And it has SERIOUS LONG TERM CONSEQUENCES. Now at age 23, I have serious dental problems because frequent vomitting leaves acidic residue that gets up under your gums where you simply CANNOT reach with a toothbrush and decalcify's your teeth to the point they turn soft and flake off in tiny pieces until there are huge holes in your teeth right inside the gumline, which is PAINFUL to have and EVEN MORE PAINFUL TO TREAT because in order to correct this problem, they have to separate your gums from your teeth...etc. Also, I am no longer physically capable of vomitting when I genuinely AM sick, which generally like with the flu, as unpleasant as it is to vomit, usually afterwards there is a short period of releif of the nausea...but if you simply CANNOT throw up, there is NO break from the nausea and it seems to get worse becuase all that grossness is stuck inside and has no way to get out... Not trying to scare her, but maybe sharing someone's personal experience will help her understand that if she really wants to ensure that she isn't "fat" her best bet is a good diet and excercise. You mentioned that she IS taking vitamins, which is a GREAT thing, and you must continue to be sure she takes them, just in case, because this will help supplement the nutrients she will be missing if she isn't eating, or if she is purging all her food too quickly after eating for any of it to soak in. Also, if you fear that she is vomitting up her meals...when I was in treatment, and even after I got home from treatment, I was required to SING anytime I went to the bathroom so that it was evident that I was not making myself sick. You simply cannot puke and sing at the same time, so it is a good way to know for sure. [img]:smile:[/img] Good luck, eating disorders are serious, and they are scary. No matter what, I would rather assume it is serious and find out it wasnt than to write it off as a ploy for attention and find out later that it is much worse than you thought. I will be thinking of you!!!! [/QUOTE]
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