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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 37088" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Add us to this also. My easy child is older than difficult child and all throughout their school years easy child tried to disassociate with difficult child as much as she possibly could. If a teacher mentioned the connection, ie., "Are you difficult child's sister?" easy child would literally cringe and often ask to go to the bathroom just to take a breather. I know she often felt anger and hate at her difficult child sister because it seemed to her that difficult child was going out of her way to be bad and draw negative attention to herself, thus causing easy child major embarrassment! easy child also saw a counselor when she began suffering from panic attacks and had trouble sleeping (she was imagining someone breaking into the house - not typical for a 16 year old).</p><p></p><p>I always felt like I was working overtime to compensate for time lost with easy child due to extra time dealing with difficult child's rage attacks. It was awful at times.</p><p></p><p>I agree that family counseling would really be beneficial. If 5 y/o requires a counselor, then I would suggest a separate counselor. It's not so much about the counselor knowing difficult child's history and what it does to PC5 as it is about helping 5 y/o cope and respond appropriately, feel secure in her place in the family, etc. If PC5 were suffering from PTSD due to something else that was outside your reach, you would not be able to bring that cause into the counseling sessions. IOW, PC5's issues need to be addressed on their own and most counselors would suggest an individual counselor for each child unless it's a family therapy situation.</p><p></p><p>Hugs~</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 37088, member: 2211"] Add us to this also. My easy child is older than difficult child and all throughout their school years easy child tried to disassociate with difficult child as much as she possibly could. If a teacher mentioned the connection, ie., "Are you difficult child's sister?" easy child would literally cringe and often ask to go to the bathroom just to take a breather. I know she often felt anger and hate at her difficult child sister because it seemed to her that difficult child was going out of her way to be bad and draw negative attention to herself, thus causing easy child major embarrassment! easy child also saw a counselor when she began suffering from panic attacks and had trouble sleeping (she was imagining someone breaking into the house - not typical for a 16 year old). I always felt like I was working overtime to compensate for time lost with easy child due to extra time dealing with difficult child's rage attacks. It was awful at times. I agree that family counseling would really be beneficial. If 5 y/o requires a counselor, then I would suggest a separate counselor. It's not so much about the counselor knowing difficult child's history and what it does to PC5 as it is about helping 5 y/o cope and respond appropriately, feel secure in her place in the family, etc. If PC5 were suffering from PTSD due to something else that was outside your reach, you would not be able to bring that cause into the counseling sessions. IOW, PC5's issues need to be addressed on their own and most counselors would suggest an individual counselor for each child unless it's a family therapy situation. Hugs~ [/QUOTE]
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