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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 37163" data-attributes="member: 3199"><p>I feel strongly on this topic because of a younger brother molesting most of my siblings. Home needs to be a safe place for everyone. Right now the front porch swing is safer for your easy child than the home and that has got to be heart breaking for you. A therapist for your easy child might have better ideas on helping easy child feel safe. </p><p></p><p> My difficult child 1 has done awful things to difficult child 2 and easy child. We are teaching difficult child 2 to stand up to difficult child 1 and its beginning to make a differance. difficult child 2 now can yell no at difficult child 1, and that clues us in to come running. If difficult child 2 is upset and difficult child 1 is in the room we either remove him to where we are or stay in the room and watch them. Even if it looks like it has nothing to do with difficult child 1. Fair? No, but then neither is having an older brother that tried to kill you. We've learned that difficult child 1 can bait difficult child 2 and cause him upset with very small things. A look that says 'I'm going to get you', threatening favorite toys, taking the blanket he was wrapped in and giving him another, ect... Now difficult child 1 is testing us. Can I get away with hitting difficult child 2 if I hit him softly. He gets the same reaction from us that hitting him hard would've. I have no illusions that difficult child 1 won't go back to what he was doing before if we don't keep up our gaurd. And, I expect that as difficult child 2, easy child, and anyothers come into our family get older that therapy for them to deal with difficult child 1 might be in order.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 37163, member: 3199"] I feel strongly on this topic because of a younger brother molesting most of my siblings. Home needs to be a safe place for everyone. Right now the front porch swing is safer for your easy child than the home and that has got to be heart breaking for you. A therapist for your easy child might have better ideas on helping easy child feel safe. My difficult child 1 has done awful things to difficult child 2 and easy child. We are teaching difficult child 2 to stand up to difficult child 1 and its beginning to make a differance. difficult child 2 now can yell no at difficult child 1, and that clues us in to come running. If difficult child 2 is upset and difficult child 1 is in the room we either remove him to where we are or stay in the room and watch them. Even if it looks like it has nothing to do with difficult child 1. Fair? No, but then neither is having an older brother that tried to kill you. We've learned that difficult child 1 can bait difficult child 2 and cause him upset with very small things. A look that says 'I'm going to get you', threatening favorite toys, taking the blanket he was wrapped in and giving him another, ect... Now difficult child 1 is testing us. Can I get away with hitting difficult child 2 if I hit him softly. He gets the same reaction from us that hitting him hard would've. I have no illusions that difficult child 1 won't go back to what he was doing before if we don't keep up our gaurd. And, I expect that as difficult child 2, easy child, and anyothers come into our family get older that therapy for them to deal with difficult child 1 might be in order. [/QUOTE]
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