has gotten out of hand. During the school year, I would ask every day, "did you do your homework" difficult child would say "yep it's done" or else "didn't have any" Only to find out at mid-quarter he hasn't been doing homework. Then for his birthday in December he got a really nice cell phone. First Bill was way out of this world high. Asked him if he purchased music. Nope. Called the company, and yes, he had been purchasing music. I asked if he knew he did. Yep. Asks you if you want to purchase, then you have to confirm your purchase. Then he was playing an online game. He took my credit card and was purchasing items for this game. Denied that too until I called the number. Then he got XBOX 360 for xmas. I noticed on my bank statement every month charges for Microsoft. Microsoft and XBOX didn't click then. Asked both boys if they downloaded anything from Microsoft. NOpe. Neither of them. This past bank statement it acutally said Microsoft - XBOX LIVE. So I called. Yep, he's purchasing points. THREE times a month. Charges for 12.50 (2x's) and 6:25 (2x's). The past month it was one charge of 25. Confronted difficult child. Yes he did but didn't tell me when I asked because he didn't want me to be mad. I chewed him out and asked him WHY he would lie when he knew I would get the bill. The credit card number is set in that game since we pay a membership fee. I told him each time, If you EVER charge another thing I will permanently remove that option. Then even if I would give permission you couldn't do it. He has never downloaded anything else since on his phone. Same conversation with Runescape game. Never did that again. Now had same conversation with XBOX. And again with what he did at the waterpark. Went to the waterpark this past week. He asked if he could purchase a drink (slushi) and charge it to the room. I asked how much he said 2.50. I asked him how many he bought. just his or his friends too. No, just one. Second day, I ASKED him if he charged anything to the room. His answer, "NO, not today..yesterday" Got the checkout bill in the morning. Not only did he charge drinks to the room SEVERAL times a day, he also bought drinks for his friend at the tune of $4.50 per drink. NOT 2.50. So, I was angry. His response again was he didn't want me to get mad. WEll, now I am SUPER mad. On top of that he ditched me the entire time. I spent three days not speaking because I was alone. If I went to the waterpark and found him (after hours of looking) they would go outside. If I went outside, they went inside. If they went to the room and I went to the room then they would leave and go play games. I told his friend to bring money, but he didn't. Went downtown one day and was going to ride the jet boats. I couldn't leave his friend there, so I didn't go so they could both go. And difficult child tells friend "my mom doesn't like these things" No...I LOVE those things. Just cannot afford for three of us to do it. Last day we were leaving early. Only couldn't find them for hours. When I did I told them where my seat was, by the pool. He said he would be right over. Three hours later I left to find him again. Inside playing ping pong. I was upset for the three hour wait. So they leave and go outside. I go get my clothes from the car. Come back and could not find them for two more hours. And that is ok. My fault. According to him it is ALL my fault. And his father says not a word to him. Get home and husband asks what's wrong. I tell him. And he yells at ME. Because I told difficult child he wasn't going anywhere. I spent three days picking up every mess these two boys made. Then go home and pick up all there messes again. We went to a huge giant waterpark and I got to go on three water rides with him. ONLY because I heard his friend tell him he should really go on a ride with his mom. He tells me he has friends that are in gangs and do drugs. I told him he will not be hanging out with them. He says he WILL if they are nice to him. I told him he deliberately stole from his parents. He doesn't see it that way. If you take money with no permission...and lie about it you are being disrespectful and mean and stealing. He doens't think it is a big deal. And I am out of line for being angry. And totally out of line if I make him stay home. He is a slob and thinks anything he wants he can get. Right at this moment I can say he is an ungrateful spoiled brat.