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difficult child's narrative to his life -how very, very sad
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 637834" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That is interesting. I have done some reading about memory and it is fascinating how differently it actually works from what we assume it works. When one inspects their own memories, it seems so clear that they are actual recollections of events as they happened or at the most slightly biased. And that they do make a linear story of our life. In reality they are anything but.</p><p></p><p>Every time we remember something, the memory changes slightly, it can easily change to something totally different than our first memory of the event was. And that first memory was likely already far from objective truth. Our memories are glimpses of what actually happened and bunch of assumptions and interpretations. We make them from few facts (and some of them are often already wrong) and make up the rest to make it the whole story. That is why there is nothing less reliable than eye-witness. And we don't know that. For us our memories seem whole, making sense, and good representation of the facts. </p><p></p><p>So even with things that have low emotional content memories of the family members differ a lot. And I'm sure that when there is high emotional content, or one of the family members has more skewed perspective to begin with, the memories are already totally different.</p><p></p><p>And I'm sure your son, like mine, has rather skewed perspective. It can be hard to remember, that for them their memories are just as real representation of events than our memories are to us. And that our memories are not actual recollections either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 637834, member: 14557"] That is interesting. I have done some reading about memory and it is fascinating how differently it actually works from what we assume it works. When one inspects their own memories, it seems so clear that they are actual recollections of events as they happened or at the most slightly biased. And that they do make a linear story of our life. In reality they are anything but. Every time we remember something, the memory changes slightly, it can easily change to something totally different than our first memory of the event was. And that first memory was likely already far from objective truth. Our memories are glimpses of what actually happened and bunch of assumptions and interpretations. We make them from few facts (and some of them are often already wrong) and make up the rest to make it the whole story. That is why there is nothing less reliable than eye-witness. And we don't know that. For us our memories seem whole, making sense, and good representation of the facts. So even with things that have low emotional content memories of the family members differ a lot. And I'm sure that when there is high emotional content, or one of the family members has more skewed perspective to begin with, the memories are already totally different. And I'm sure your son, like mine, has rather skewed perspective. It can be hard to remember, that for them their memories are just as real representation of events than our memories are to us. And that our memories are not actual recollections either. [/QUOTE]
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