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<blockquote data-quote="Gone" data-source="post: 641424"><p>MidwestMom - thank you SO much for sharing with me , it is like a breath of fresh air!</p><p></p><p>This is ''stuff'' no one likes to talk about unless they are directly involved themselves and I mean either from their HEART or part of their job , the rest just 'cruise' along like you said with no REAL interest accept meeting their OWN needs , seeing what is ''in it for them''</p><p></p><p>There is NOTHING in it for me apart from the satisfaction of KNOWING my GS is safe and well and happy and secure , preferably with me one day if this situation continues which looks like it WILL</p><p></p><p>What I don't understand is HOW can SS RETURN a little boy to his Mothers care KNOWING she is still drinking or even SUSPECTING it??? <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/confusion.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":confusion:" title="confusion :confusion:" data-shortname=":confusion:" /></p><p></p><p>Then expect ME to step in and supervise and if it gets too much for me then I am at fault!!! They seem to expect me to be superhuman and relish in looking after and living with an alcoholic and my GS , there is only ONE of the roles I relish there</p><p></p><p>They ask me ''is she still drinking?''</p><p></p><p>I say ''yes'' and STILL NOTHING IS DONE , they expect me to be there to supervise my GS but if supervising my difficult child becomes too much for me then I am to blame if I dare think of leaving my GS in that situation if I have BURN OUT or exhaustion but I am not super human THEY can go home at the end of the day , family can pop in and visit but I am the one left in the mess , chaos , disorder , vomit , destruction , stress and all the sh*t that goes with alcoholism and how dare I leave??? :ambivalence:</p><p></p><p>They won't let me REMOVE my GS from that enviroment or situation yet expect HIM AND ME to remain in that chaos which is no good for EITHER of us and like you said ''I am good enough to look after BOTH of them , but not ONE of them'' ..... The FAR easier one! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/wink-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wink-very:" title="wink-very :wink-very:" data-shortname=":wink-very:" /></p><p></p><p>I don't know what EVIDENCE they need to have her parental responsibility removed , they don't seem to be asking for blood tests or hair strand tests which I think would be a good idea and it is <strong>my GS left in that situation of danger and neglect! AND THEY ARE MEANT TO BE ''CHILD PROTECTION'' SERVICES!!!</strong></p><p></p><p>If they let him go home I can GUARANTEE it will not work out and it will end up in chaos again and then if my GS is removed again WHAT THE HELL IS THAT GOING TO DO TO HIS EMOTIONAL WELL BEING after being at HOME for a while , back with the family and Nanny and his Aunty who he loves too???</p><p></p><p>It will f*ck him up , but my difficult child does not think about that she has already said she will lie to get him and keep him but that will NOT work indefinitely and that is a RISKY path for her to take but also to take my GS on!!</p><p></p><p>I will give them the 'evidence' they need although I think they should do regular blood tests while she is AWAY from him let alone if he is returned ( too early in my opinion! ) but what will they DO with the evidence???</p><p></p><p>I end up being angry , frustrated with and untrusting of BOTH SS AND my difficult child and I am in between a rock and a hard place and so is my GS!!!</p><p></p><p>I hope it works out for him ie US , his room is ready , I am ready , they may have to change his school but at least he will have calm , peace and stability here... And some HAPPINESS and security as little man bless him DESERVES that and he does NOT deserve what he is going through right now and nor do I .... I sometimes feel like I have done something wrong and SS are punishing me for it but I have done nothing wrong in this , just tried desperately to do what is RIGHT for my GS and in general even for the public</p><p></p><p>It's like nothing is ''seen'' my efforts are not seen , nothing I do is ''good enough'' nothing is recognised , NEVER a good word said to me by SS and I mean NEVER , if they EVER compliment me at ALL one day I think I will fall off my chair in SHOCK even though I am bending over backwards , jumping through every hoop imaginable and like you said doing my very best which is never deemed good enough , yet I reckon in an EMERGENCY situation they will be banging down my door to have him! LOL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Gone, post: 641424"] MidwestMom - thank you SO much for sharing with me , it is like a breath of fresh air! This is ''stuff'' no one likes to talk about unless they are directly involved themselves and I mean either from their HEART or part of their job , the rest just 'cruise' along like you said with no REAL interest accept meeting their OWN needs , seeing what is ''in it for them'' There is NOTHING in it for me apart from the satisfaction of KNOWING my GS is safe and well and happy and secure , preferably with me one day if this situation continues which looks like it WILL What I don't understand is HOW can SS RETURN a little boy to his Mothers care KNOWING she is still drinking or even SUSPECTING it??? :confusion: Then expect ME to step in and supervise and if it gets too much for me then I am at fault!!! They seem to expect me to be superhuman and relish in looking after and living with an alcoholic and my GS , there is only ONE of the roles I relish there They ask me ''is she still drinking?'' I say ''yes'' and STILL NOTHING IS DONE , they expect me to be there to supervise my GS but if supervising my difficult child becomes too much for me then I am to blame if I dare think of leaving my GS in that situation if I have BURN OUT or exhaustion but I am not super human THEY can go home at the end of the day , family can pop in and visit but I am the one left in the mess , chaos , disorder , vomit , destruction , stress and all the sh*t that goes with alcoholism and how dare I leave??? :ambivalence: They won't let me REMOVE my GS from that enviroment or situation yet expect HIM AND ME to remain in that chaos which is no good for EITHER of us and like you said ''I am good enough to look after BOTH of them , but not ONE of them'' ..... The FAR easier one! :wink-very: I don't know what EVIDENCE they need to have her parental responsibility removed , they don't seem to be asking for blood tests or hair strand tests which I think would be a good idea and it is [B]my GS left in that situation of danger and neglect! AND THEY ARE MEANT TO BE ''CHILD PROTECTION'' SERVICES!!![/B] If they let him go home I can GUARANTEE it will not work out and it will end up in chaos again and then if my GS is removed again WHAT THE HELL IS THAT GOING TO DO TO HIS EMOTIONAL WELL BEING after being at HOME for a while , back with the family and Nanny and his Aunty who he loves too??? It will f*ck him up , but my difficult child does not think about that she has already said she will lie to get him and keep him but that will NOT work indefinitely and that is a RISKY path for her to take but also to take my GS on!! I will give them the 'evidence' they need although I think they should do regular blood tests while she is AWAY from him let alone if he is returned ( too early in my opinion! ) but what will they DO with the evidence??? I end up being angry , frustrated with and untrusting of BOTH SS AND my difficult child and I am in between a rock and a hard place and so is my GS!!! I hope it works out for him ie US , his room is ready , I am ready , they may have to change his school but at least he will have calm , peace and stability here... And some HAPPINESS and security as little man bless him DESERVES that and he does NOT deserve what he is going through right now and nor do I .... I sometimes feel like I have done something wrong and SS are punishing me for it but I have done nothing wrong in this , just tried desperately to do what is RIGHT for my GS and in general even for the public It's like nothing is ''seen'' my efforts are not seen , nothing I do is ''good enough'' nothing is recognised , NEVER a good word said to me by SS and I mean NEVER , if they EVER compliment me at ALL one day I think I will fall off my chair in SHOCK even though I am bending over backwards , jumping through every hoop imaginable and like you said doing my very best which is never deemed good enough , yet I reckon in an EMERGENCY situation they will be banging down my door to have him! LOL [/QUOTE]
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