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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 694717" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Shelters are hard. But they play a role in our DCs lives', them having the experience of a shelter. </p><p></p><p>NO, I would go slowly here, as you are doing. Don't react to his push for an immediate solution. If you are willing to perhaps help fund another temporary living spot for him, let him find the place. Let him make the phone calls to some sober living houses. Let him do the legwork. There is no solution without some skin in the game. Let him have some skin in the game. You can usually get a halfway house for about $100 or $125 a week. They aren't perfect either. My son was in one a couple of times, and got kicked out. </p><p></p><p>However, allowing him to explore options---NOT YOUR HOUSE----is part of his journey. He needs to take responsibility as much as possible for part of this. </p><p></p><p>I agree that your instincts are very good about him not coming there. Also, if he decides to totally reject the shelter without another solution, and is on the street, that is again his choice. You don't have to save the day from that choice here. Sometimes that is exactly what it takes, and believe me, it won't kill him to sleep on the street for a few weeks. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. We're here for you. We know how hard this is. You have a good head on your shoulders here. We're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 694717, member: 17542"] Shelters are hard. But they play a role in our DCs lives', them having the experience of a shelter. NO, I would go slowly here, as you are doing. Don't react to his push for an immediate solution. If you are willing to perhaps help fund another temporary living spot for him, let him find the place. Let him make the phone calls to some sober living houses. Let him do the legwork. There is no solution without some skin in the game. Let him have some skin in the game. You can usually get a halfway house for about $100 or $125 a week. They aren't perfect either. My son was in one a couple of times, and got kicked out. However, allowing him to explore options---NOT YOUR HOUSE----is part of his journey. He needs to take responsibility as much as possible for part of this. I agree that your instincts are very good about him not coming there. Also, if he decides to totally reject the shelter without another solution, and is on the street, that is again his choice. You don't have to save the day from that choice here. Sometimes that is exactly what it takes, and believe me, it won't kill him to sleep on the street for a few weeks. Hang in there. We're here for you. We know how hard this is. You have a good head on your shoulders here. We're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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