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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 627438" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Attachment disorder is exactly what antisocial personality and psychopathy and sociopathy are. No matter what the cause, and the cause is often chaos in the first three years of life plus DNA, your child is now without conscience. Does it really matter why he has none at this late date?</p><p></p><p>I adopted a child who was a sociopath too. We adopted him at 11 because his profile was so marvelous, psychiatric reports were stellar, and his foster mother of five years loved him to pieces. She told me how sweet and loving he was toward her little kids that she babysat for. It was all good until we found out he was having sex with my two youngest adoptive kids (I don't want anyone to think I believe all adoptive kids are sick...my other two are not nor is my oldest one). But this was was beyond sick. Not only had he had some penetration with my six year old daughter and forced our eight year old autistic son and his seven year old foster brother to have sex at knifepoint, but he did other great things like kill two of our dogs (the first one we thought were racist neighbors). He set fires that only my kids knew about, not us, because the little guys were terrified of him. To them, he had more power than we did because he could and did hurt them and he threatened that if they told us anything he'd burn the house down with all of us in it. They saw him kill animals.</p><p></p><p>As soon as we found out about the sexual abuse, even before shocked and overprotective father busted home, I was on the phone with CPS telling them he had to be removed. We were fortunate that he babbled what he had done...this time because, for the first time ever, he had a ton of adults surrounding him and I actually think he was afraid. At least he didn't blame us for abusing him. He could have turned it around and we would have been screwed, but he admitted it in a dull, flat voice that indicated how little he cared. He ended up being sued by the state for first degree sexual assault of a minor even though he was only thirteen. If a child perps on a child who is six years younger, he CAN be charged and he was and he spent a useless several years in a home for young sexual perps in which he was caught on camera several times trying to perp.In this lock down facility, he admitted he had perped on his foster mother's charges...those she had babysat for...and many other little kids in other foster homes.</p><p></p><p>When asked why he did it, they said he had a totally flat expression and shrugged. He had no idea why. He had no insight into his own sick behavior.</p><p></p><p>He did not miss us (attachment disorder), but admitted he missed the money and toys we bought him, although he was pretty good at shoplifting. The knife he had was shoplifted. We would have never given him a pocket knife. </p><p></p><p>The adoption was severed. We never wanted to see him again when we found out there had actually been some penetration with our baby. She and autistic son had to go through some gently administered testing by a special pediatrician who deals with finding proof of sexual activity in children. Because of the fantastic support of CPS, we had so much support and the kids had so much free psychiatric care that both are doing great today. Jumper remembers some of what he did. Sonic remembers nothing, but I have it in his caseworkers files just in case he starts to have flashbacks. I want them to be able to clarify to him exactly what happened and who did it. I want them to be able to help him through it if it surfaces when he is older. Since it was a court case, the facts are there.</p><p></p><p>Sorry I got carried away. I guess I wanted to share with you how absolutely awful attachment disorder/antisocial personality disorder/psychopathology/psychopathology can be. Does it matter that this child was abused by his own birthmother? That she almost kiled him by not feeding him? That he had tons of caregivers and no stability and six foster homes? That definitely caused his attachment disorder and it wasn't his fault. Furthermore, most foster kids are sexually abused along the way, although he doesn't remember it. It still probably happened. Does it really matter though...when the WHY of it has morphed into a dangerous person?</p><p></p><p>If I think about it, I am very sad that this child had to go through so much in his life that this is what he became. But I still can not forgive what he did nor do I ever want to lay eyes on him again. He still could have destroyed our entire family and did a good job of trying...even at ages 11-13 which was when we had him. And he was not psychotic. He knew exactly what he was doing. He just did not care about living things. He was too damaged by then; too dangerous to live in society, although he is currently not in jail (I follow his court cases...he is free right now. I have no doubt he will be incarcerated again...I hope not for murder, but it wouldn't surprise me).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 627438, member: 1550"] Attachment disorder is exactly what antisocial personality and psychopathy and sociopathy are. No matter what the cause, and the cause is often chaos in the first three years of life plus DNA, your child is now without conscience. Does it really matter why he has none at this late date? I adopted a child who was a sociopath too. We adopted him at 11 because his profile was so marvelous, psychiatric reports were stellar, and his foster mother of five years loved him to pieces. She told me how sweet and loving he was toward her little kids that she babysat for. It was all good until we found out he was having sex with my two youngest adoptive kids (I don't want anyone to think I believe all adoptive kids are sick...my other two are not nor is my oldest one). But this was was beyond sick. Not only had he had some penetration with my six year old daughter and forced our eight year old autistic son and his seven year old foster brother to have sex at knifepoint, but he did other great things like kill two of our dogs (the first one we thought were racist neighbors). He set fires that only my kids knew about, not us, because the little guys were terrified of him. To them, he had more power than we did because he could and did hurt them and he threatened that if they told us anything he'd burn the house down with all of us in it. They saw him kill animals. As soon as we found out about the sexual abuse, even before shocked and overprotective father busted home, I was on the phone with CPS telling them he had to be removed. We were fortunate that he babbled what he had done...this time because, for the first time ever, he had a ton of adults surrounding him and I actually think he was afraid. At least he didn't blame us for abusing him. He could have turned it around and we would have been screwed, but he admitted it in a dull, flat voice that indicated how little he cared. He ended up being sued by the state for first degree sexual assault of a minor even though he was only thirteen. If a child perps on a child who is six years younger, he CAN be charged and he was and he spent a useless several years in a home for young sexual perps in which he was caught on camera several times trying to perp.In this lock down facility, he admitted he had perped on his foster mother's charges...those she had babysat for...and many other little kids in other foster homes. When asked why he did it, they said he had a totally flat expression and shrugged. He had no idea why. He had no insight into his own sick behavior. He did not miss us (attachment disorder), but admitted he missed the money and toys we bought him, although he was pretty good at shoplifting. The knife he had was shoplifted. We would have never given him a pocket knife. The adoption was severed. We never wanted to see him again when we found out there had actually been some penetration with our baby. She and autistic son had to go through some gently administered testing by a special pediatrician who deals with finding proof of sexual activity in children. Because of the fantastic support of CPS, we had so much support and the kids had so much free psychiatric care that both are doing great today. Jumper remembers some of what he did. Sonic remembers nothing, but I have it in his caseworkers files just in case he starts to have flashbacks. I want them to be able to clarify to him exactly what happened and who did it. I want them to be able to help him through it if it surfaces when he is older. Since it was a court case, the facts are there. Sorry I got carried away. I guess I wanted to share with you how absolutely awful attachment disorder/antisocial personality disorder/psychopathology/psychopathology can be. Does it matter that this child was abused by his own birthmother? That she almost kiled him by not feeding him? That he had tons of caregivers and no stability and six foster homes? That definitely caused his attachment disorder and it wasn't his fault. Furthermore, most foster kids are sexually abused along the way, although he doesn't remember it. It still probably happened. Does it really matter though...when the WHY of it has morphed into a dangerous person? If I think about it, I am very sad that this child had to go through so much in his life that this is what he became. But I still can not forgive what he did nor do I ever want to lay eyes on him again. He still could have destroyed our entire family and did a good job of trying...even at ages 11-13 which was when we had him. And he was not psychotic. He knew exactly what he was doing. He just did not care about living things. He was too damaged by then; too dangerous to live in society, although he is currently not in jail (I follow his court cases...he is free right now. I have no doubt he will be incarcerated again...I hope not for murder, but it wouldn't surprise me). [/QUOTE]
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