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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 651677" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Lucy, good to hear from you, I've been thinking about you.</p><p></p><p>I know how you feel. My grown up little girl is a free spirit, makes choices based on "being free, being untethered"........sometimes I admire her tenacity, her courage........sometimes I just wish she were married with kids, like ECHO said, and came to dinner on Sundays.</p><p></p><p>I have 2 siblings who live, well, perhaps not quite off the grid entirely, but close to it......I admire them too. Both support themselves well and don't rely on others like my daughter does. There was a time, like pasajes, that I lived off the grid and it was seriously, one of the best times of my life. </p><p></p><p>I grapple with that with my daughter..........the choices she makes, the way she lives........doing everything I can to let go of judgements leaves me with more space to see her more clearly, without my expectations.........it's hard to be the mother of a non conformist, off the grid, difficult child........there is just so much uncertainty, they don't stay within the lines.</p><p></p><p>Now that my daughter no longer asks me for anything and has carved out her own existence, as long as I keep those boundaries intact, and she respects me and is kind to me, all is well............but yeah, I understand about trying to embrace it and not catastrophize about it..........</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Lucy, we're all here in the same boat. As Pasa said on another thread, sometimes "it just sucks to be us"......for some reason that made me smile, because I know she knew........ we all know........and that knowing that we all know, makes me feel better.........you're not alone Lucy. None of us here are. And, it still sucks, just not so bad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 651677, member: 13542"] Lucy, good to hear from you, I've been thinking about you. I know how you feel. My grown up little girl is a free spirit, makes choices based on "being free, being untethered"........sometimes I admire her tenacity, her courage........sometimes I just wish she were married with kids, like ECHO said, and came to dinner on Sundays. I have 2 siblings who live, well, perhaps not quite off the grid entirely, but close to it......I admire them too. Both support themselves well and don't rely on others like my daughter does. There was a time, like pasajes, that I lived off the grid and it was seriously, one of the best times of my life. I grapple with that with my daughter..........the choices she makes, the way she lives........doing everything I can to let go of judgements leaves me with more space to see her more clearly, without my expectations.........it's hard to be the mother of a non conformist, off the grid, difficult child........there is just so much uncertainty, they don't stay within the lines. Now that my daughter no longer asks me for anything and has carved out her own existence, as long as I keep those boundaries intact, and she respects me and is kind to me, all is well............but yeah, I understand about trying to embrace it and not catastrophize about it.......... Hang in there Lucy, we're all here in the same boat. As Pasa said on another thread, sometimes "it just sucks to be us"......for some reason that made me smile, because I know she knew........ we all know........and that knowing that we all know, makes me feel better.........you're not alone Lucy. None of us here are. And, it still sucks, just not so bad. [/QUOTE]
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