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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 651692" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lucy, I get what you are saying. I think we change a lot when we go through all of this and we start seeing things in brand new ways. </p><p></p><p>A lot of the old norms die away. We start seeing other people in a new light, and we learn new ways of thinking and behaving. We start accepting people for who they are. We stop judging (so much). We start being able to "live and let live."</p><p></p><p>Who is to say your son doesn't have solid ground to stand on, with his beliefs? As I've said before, much of the institutionalized and commercialized world is distasteful to many of us. </p><p></p><p>However, for whatever reason, we have chosen to conform, at least somewhat and to different degrees.</p><p></p><p>He has not. So, okay. Personally, I'm okay with people living how they want to live, as long as it doesn't infringe on me or on others. The rub with your son is that he's on someone else's property, right? That's the real rub. I know his lifestyle causes you hurt in your mother's heart, is he warm? Is he fed? Is he safe? Is he okay? I so understand that.</p><p></p><p>And I think we are sad too, because we had dreams for them, and their dreams were not our dreams. We get over that, in time, and I think we develop a new respect for people who go their own way. </p><p></p><p>With my son, he has done things in his past lifestyle that I can't reason away by saying, oh, okay, do your own thing. Stealing from other people things that don't belong to you isn't right. By any measure. Hurting yourself with drugs that aren't given to you isn't right, by any measure. Breaking the law, even if you don't agree with the law, isn't right, by any measure. </p><p></p><p>But there is something, a grain of something, in me that says, Wow, I'd love to thumb my nose at the world and "get off the grid" and just be. It's not in the cards for me, but a little part of me yearns for that.</p><p></p><p>I watched the movie, Wild, recently, and I loved it. I loved seeing her strike out on that path of 1,000 miles, to find out who she is. There was something very appealing about that to me.</p><p></p><p>So Lucy, I see what you are saying here, and perhaps you are making yet another shift in how you view your son. </p><p></p><p>I wish for all of us the peace of acceptance. The serenity and the relief and the peace of letting go. Of living one day at a time. Of live and let live. Of How important is it? </p><p></p><p>The more we can accept what is, the better off we will be. Warm hugs to you tonight, Lucy. We are here with you, no matter what.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 651692, member: 17542"] Lucy, I get what you are saying. I think we change a lot when we go through all of this and we start seeing things in brand new ways. A lot of the old norms die away. We start seeing other people in a new light, and we learn new ways of thinking and behaving. We start accepting people for who they are. We stop judging (so much). We start being able to "live and let live." Who is to say your son doesn't have solid ground to stand on, with his beliefs? As I've said before, much of the institutionalized and commercialized world is distasteful to many of us. However, for whatever reason, we have chosen to conform, at least somewhat and to different degrees. He has not. So, okay. Personally, I'm okay with people living how they want to live, as long as it doesn't infringe on me or on others. The rub with your son is that he's on someone else's property, right? That's the real rub. I know his lifestyle causes you hurt in your mother's heart, is he warm? Is he fed? Is he safe? Is he okay? I so understand that. And I think we are sad too, because we had dreams for them, and their dreams were not our dreams. We get over that, in time, and I think we develop a new respect for people who go their own way. With my son, he has done things in his past lifestyle that I can't reason away by saying, oh, okay, do your own thing. Stealing from other people things that don't belong to you isn't right. By any measure. Hurting yourself with drugs that aren't given to you isn't right, by any measure. Breaking the law, even if you don't agree with the law, isn't right, by any measure. But there is something, a grain of something, in me that says, Wow, I'd love to thumb my nose at the world and "get off the grid" and just be. It's not in the cards for me, but a little part of me yearns for that. I watched the movie, Wild, recently, and I loved it. I loved seeing her strike out on that path of 1,000 miles, to find out who she is. There was something very appealing about that to me. So Lucy, I see what you are saying here, and perhaps you are making yet another shift in how you view your son. I wish for all of us the peace of acceptance. The serenity and the relief and the peace of letting go. Of living one day at a time. Of live and let live. Of How important is it? The more we can accept what is, the better off we will be. Warm hugs to you tonight, Lucy. We are here with you, no matter what. [/QUOTE]
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