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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 38165" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The drill sergeant vs "happy sappy" - I don't do either. I talk to my kids in the same tone of voice I use for any adult. It depends on the situation, but touching a wall with dirty hands - I might get a bit cranky with husband too, if he made a mess, but I would always assume it was carelessness and not deliberate, in which case I would say, "hey, honey, I just cleaned that wall and I haven't the time to do it again; here's the cloth, you do it."</p><p></p><p>And when you have a lot of chores to do yourself, this limits the quality time you can spend with your kids. So when your workload is increased, you have less time. But when the cooperate, make time for them and tell them that you can spare the time because they pitched in and helped.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes we can do chores together, such as preparing vegetables. I do potatoes, difficult child 3 does the carrots, but we do them at the same time and talk while we work. I always thank them even for doing their regular chores. And where possible, I involve everybody. You could even involve a 4 year old in vegetable preparing - he could shake the vegetables up in seasoned oil (I use a plastic bag) and then pour then into a baking tray.</p><p></p><p>Working as a team can be a very positive thing for everybody. Ignore any complaining as they do it, and make sure they get first go at the vegetables when they're cooked. At least the first time. Tell others at the meal that the kids did a lot to help.</p><p></p><p>And if ever you get the "boys don't do kitchen stuff" point out that YOUR boys do, so that one day they can make an independent life for themselves as good as living at home with you. You want them to be able to save their money so they can spend it on what they want, instead of having to live on supermarket packed frozen food, which is expensive and doesn't taste as good.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 38165, member: 1991"] The drill sergeant vs "happy sappy" - I don't do either. I talk to my kids in the same tone of voice I use for any adult. It depends on the situation, but touching a wall with dirty hands - I might get a bit cranky with husband too, if he made a mess, but I would always assume it was carelessness and not deliberate, in which case I would say, "hey, honey, I just cleaned that wall and I haven't the time to do it again; here's the cloth, you do it." And when you have a lot of chores to do yourself, this limits the quality time you can spend with your kids. So when your workload is increased, you have less time. But when the cooperate, make time for them and tell them that you can spare the time because they pitched in and helped. Sometimes we can do chores together, such as preparing vegetables. I do potatoes, difficult child 3 does the carrots, but we do them at the same time and talk while we work. I always thank them even for doing their regular chores. And where possible, I involve everybody. You could even involve a 4 year old in vegetable preparing - he could shake the vegetables up in seasoned oil (I use a plastic bag) and then pour then into a baking tray. Working as a team can be a very positive thing for everybody. Ignore any complaining as they do it, and make sure they get first go at the vegetables when they're cooked. At least the first time. Tell others at the meal that the kids did a lot to help. And if ever you get the "boys don't do kitchen stuff" point out that YOUR boys do, so that one day they can make an independent life for themselves as good as living at home with you. You want them to be able to save their money so they can spend it on what they want, instead of having to live on supermarket packed frozen food, which is expensive and doesn't taste as good. Marg [/QUOTE]
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