So, we met with-Dr. M this a.m. and told him about difficult child skipping school, playing computer games all day, and using three phones and a credit card to get "free" game points. Only one of difficult child's teachers returned the Connors Rating Scale--his Spanish teacher. She's the pencil pusher who follows all the admin rules and doesn't understand Asperger's and ADHD, but her pencil pushing came in handy since she's the only one who filled out the form and mailed it back. Dr. M spoke directly to husband and me and ignored difficult child (this is a trick you're supposed to do with-teens since they pretend to ignore everyone), knowing full well that difficult child was soaking it all in. He mentioned how difficult child's new ventures into other kids' homes (and the skating rink last night) was a step in the right direction for his Asperger's, so for now, no new medications for anxiety. However, the stealing could have landed him in jail and in court (lawsuit) if he'd put that much on other peope's phone bills and credit cards, and that parents can take their own kids to court. He also mentioned a CHINS petition. He did not like the lack of insight into what happens after A,B, and C is done (eg, the bill is going to come in the mail at some point. Where is the thought process?). He also did not like the lack of remorse, and the continual arguing about "No, that's not exactly what I said, and that's not fair," etc. He kept on and on about lack of remorse. He said it appeared more like difficult child was upset because he was caught. Dr. M said that since difficult child isn't talking, he doesn't know what he was thinking at the time he did the impulsive things he did. Was the thrill that great? Was it an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) thing? Was it something he will repeat because he doesn't care what happens to him afterward? He make a point of repeating it to us, in the third person, knowing that difficult child could jump in at any time and say, "That's not true!" I asked difficult child if he knew how hard husband and I had to work to pay back that money. He said yes. (What's he supposed to say?) He spoke very little during the mtng. The dr said we were working in the right direction by withholding a big birthday bash and just having a quiet dinner and small gifts (if any), because it hits difficult child where he can see and feel it. And also, by having difficult child work off the payment, in addition to his regular chores. He mentioned that difficult child is working toward a conduct disorder with-this type of behavior. Yeah, he'll be 15 in Dec. Sigh.