TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
At least, I thought she was a friend. Now I just think she's gone off the deep end.
Her husband died about 4 yrs ago. She has not had a boyfriend at all. She has three boys, ages 24, 21 and 14. They are all homeschooled and very sheltered. The 21 and 24-yr-old are partly on their own; the oldest has an apt in a nearby city and drives back and forth quite a bit. He sells high-end cars. The middle son is into computers and learning to sell cars. Neither is interested in going to college.
C. (their mom, our friend) learned to dance (ballroom, salsa) a yr ago and has been obsessed with-it ever since. She met a guy online, through her dance instructor. He said he had job prospects in the area. She decided he had enough similarites and good job prospects that she would fly him in and get to know him better. He was divorced, had a cpl grown kids, danced, and did computer stuff.
She flew him in, and the next thing we knew, he was living with-her. He spent quite a bit of time on the computer, but never really left the house, so the kids got suspicious that he didn't really have a job.
The kids hated him from the get-go. Not just the potential of replacing their dad, but the idea that their mom had pd for his flt, his job was nebulous.
We met him on Easter, by accident. We had invited her to our house, she had invited us to her house. We called back and talked to her youngest son and said we would be coming over, and they got the info confused. We showed up at the door and boy, were they surprised! They were all sitting there in total silence, glaring at the boyfriend. It was so tense when we walked in, you could have cut the air with-a knife, to use a cliche'. So we livened it up and everyone relaxed a bit. (She thanked us later.)
We were not impressed by her beau. He is very impressed by himself.
A few days later, the kids heard them arguing about a pre-nup. She wanted one, he didn't.
Over the last few mo's he has told the boys they were spoiled and rude.
Hey, these kids are angels. I have never met a family like this b4. They play freeze-out with-this guy, but never once have said a mean thing to him.
C. and guy fight some more and break up... but he is living for free in one of her properties. She goes to a therapist who says she needs to work things through, regardless of whether they're going to stay together, because she tends to just cut loose, no explanations given.
She gets back with-him, and they get back together.
Suddenly, oldest son is served an eviction notice. Say what? He wasn't really living there. She had never told him to move out b4, hadn't discussed a game plan. They just let things move along at a snail's pace. She never wanted to cut the apron strings b4, since her husband was gone and she needed the boys.
She doesn't need them any more.
Middle son and youngest are told that mom is leaving for a 1 mo. stay in another state with-boyfriend. Mom tells 14-yr-old to pack up and go with-her. He refuses. Mom then assigns temp custody to middle son and leaves.
14-yr-old is on computer, sees an email pop up for his mom, (intended for a dancing friend), discovers that his mom is planning to stay away for 6 mo's, then intends to sell their house, all their properties, and move to the new state.
C. never told her mother, sister, oldest son, or any of her friends (except the one dancing friend) that any of this was going to happen. None of the kids knows which city she is in or what her address is.
C's mother is in the hospital with-a collapsed lung. C. has not called or flown home to check on her.
It sounds like one of those spooky real-crime shows on TV, but there is no crime ... just a woman in love who is being taken for every penny she has.
*** husband and I took the oldest to brunch today. He says he's fine. Yeah, right. He's shell shocked.
We're taking all 3 boys to dinner tonight. We're probably going to take them to dinner once a wk, as a routine from now on ... they know how to eat prefab food, but don't know how to cook, and their mom, C., was really big into eating healthy ... she ran a co-op, knew all about gluten-free and lactose free foods, the whole shebang.
This has all taken place in 6 mo's.
Her husband died about 4 yrs ago. She has not had a boyfriend at all. She has three boys, ages 24, 21 and 14. They are all homeschooled and very sheltered. The 21 and 24-yr-old are partly on their own; the oldest has an apt in a nearby city and drives back and forth quite a bit. He sells high-end cars. The middle son is into computers and learning to sell cars. Neither is interested in going to college.
C. (their mom, our friend) learned to dance (ballroom, salsa) a yr ago and has been obsessed with-it ever since. She met a guy online, through her dance instructor. He said he had job prospects in the area. She decided he had enough similarites and good job prospects that she would fly him in and get to know him better. He was divorced, had a cpl grown kids, danced, and did computer stuff.
She flew him in, and the next thing we knew, he was living with-her. He spent quite a bit of time on the computer, but never really left the house, so the kids got suspicious that he didn't really have a job.
The kids hated him from the get-go. Not just the potential of replacing their dad, but the idea that their mom had pd for his flt, his job was nebulous.
We met him on Easter, by accident. We had invited her to our house, she had invited us to her house. We called back and talked to her youngest son and said we would be coming over, and they got the info confused. We showed up at the door and boy, were they surprised! They were all sitting there in total silence, glaring at the boyfriend. It was so tense when we walked in, you could have cut the air with-a knife, to use a cliche'. So we livened it up and everyone relaxed a bit. (She thanked us later.)
We were not impressed by her beau. He is very impressed by himself.
A few days later, the kids heard them arguing about a pre-nup. She wanted one, he didn't.
Over the last few mo's he has told the boys they were spoiled and rude.
Hey, these kids are angels. I have never met a family like this b4. They play freeze-out with-this guy, but never once have said a mean thing to him.
C. and guy fight some more and break up... but he is living for free in one of her properties. She goes to a therapist who says she needs to work things through, regardless of whether they're going to stay together, because she tends to just cut loose, no explanations given.
She gets back with-him, and they get back together.
Suddenly, oldest son is served an eviction notice. Say what? He wasn't really living there. She had never told him to move out b4, hadn't discussed a game plan. They just let things move along at a snail's pace. She never wanted to cut the apron strings b4, since her husband was gone and she needed the boys.
She doesn't need them any more.
Middle son and youngest are told that mom is leaving for a 1 mo. stay in another state with-boyfriend. Mom tells 14-yr-old to pack up and go with-her. He refuses. Mom then assigns temp custody to middle son and leaves.
14-yr-old is on computer, sees an email pop up for his mom, (intended for a dancing friend), discovers that his mom is planning to stay away for 6 mo's, then intends to sell their house, all their properties, and move to the new state.
C. never told her mother, sister, oldest son, or any of her friends (except the one dancing friend) that any of this was going to happen. None of the kids knows which city she is in or what her address is.
C's mother is in the hospital with-a collapsed lung. C. has not called or flown home to check on her.
It sounds like one of those spooky real-crime shows on TV, but there is no crime ... just a woman in love who is being taken for every penny she has.
*** husband and I took the oldest to brunch today. He says he's fine. Yeah, right. He's shell shocked.
We're taking all 3 boys to dinner tonight. We're probably going to take them to dinner once a wk, as a routine from now on ... they know how to eat prefab food, but don't know how to cook, and their mom, C., was really big into eating healthy ... she ran a co-op, knew all about gluten-free and lactose free foods, the whole shebang.
This has all taken place in 6 mo's.
