Hello everyone, I posted awhile ago about my son. He has been smoking weed and possibly selling for a few years now. He has stolen from us and probably others as well. We kicked him out and since then he is doing alright. He moved to another town and told me he is going to college (I haven't seen the bill for the one class I offered to pay for, so not sure it's true). He said he's been staying out of trouble and lives with roomates but can't find a job. I don't know how he is making it since I refuse to give him money until he quits his habit. I need to know how to handle my husband and his relationship or lack there of. Since my husband and him have said cruel things to eachother, and my son feels wronged because my husband kicked him out when he didn't expect it, (I rescued him by paying for temporary housing). My husband feels wronged because our son disprespected him & broke the rule of no smoking. Neither one will talk to eachother. I really want my son to come home for the holidays but my husband wont' allow it, unless my son apologizes. Also, whenever we talk about him we fight. Our relationship is almost perfect until the subject of our son comes up. Should I just let them work things out and stop trying to mediate? I just want peace and feel my son is trying but refuses to give up the weed. Any advice or experience would be welcomed, thanks!!