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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 628533" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>WM, I agree. </p><p></p><p>Are you in the middle of trying to get him a place to stay? Gently, I suggest, you remove yourself from that role. The longer you try to handle his life, the more you will drive yourself crazy. </p><p></p><p>I would not let one of my friends offer my difficult child a place to stay without knowing the full picture. If that is where you are in this process, give him the choice to tell her first and let him know if he doesn't, you will.</p><p></p><p>You can't let a friend walk blindly into that type of situation. in my humble opinion she is asking for trouble, letting an active addict in the house to live, but if she is fully aware of his current situation, that is her choice. It likely will not end well, sadly. </p><p></p><p>There are places to stay for people who are homeless. Shelters, for one. Of course, they drug test you every time you walk in and out of the door, that is why my difficult child would prefer to be homeless. Just like halfway houses, Sober living houses, etc. </p><p></p><p>If your difficult child really wants a place to stay, he will find one. </p><p></p><p>Try not to react to him and the life he is living. He has gotten where he is by his own choices. Like my SO says, it took a long time to walk into the woods. It's going to take a long time to walk out of the woods.</p><p></p><p>He will have to start somewhere. My difficult child has lived on couches, gotten beaten up because he stolen money from people who let him sleep on their couch, stolen from his friends, stayed in abandoned houses, slept in a parking garage between bookcases, on and on and on. It's ugly, WM. </p><p></p><p>Start trying to unhook from his drama. He can change his life, and he can start today. But it's up to him. </p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 628533, member: 17542"] WM, I agree. Are you in the middle of trying to get him a place to stay? Gently, I suggest, you remove yourself from that role. The longer you try to handle his life, the more you will drive yourself crazy. I would not let one of my friends offer my difficult child a place to stay without knowing the full picture. If that is where you are in this process, give him the choice to tell her first and let him know if he doesn't, you will. You can't let a friend walk blindly into that type of situation. in my humble opinion she is asking for trouble, letting an active addict in the house to live, but if she is fully aware of his current situation, that is her choice. It likely will not end well, sadly. There are places to stay for people who are homeless. Shelters, for one. Of course, they drug test you every time you walk in and out of the door, that is why my difficult child would prefer to be homeless. Just like halfway houses, Sober living houses, etc. If your difficult child really wants a place to stay, he will find one. Try not to react to him and the life he is living. He has gotten where he is by his own choices. Like my SO says, it took a long time to walk into the woods. It's going to take a long time to walk out of the woods. He will have to start somewhere. My difficult child has lived on couches, gotten beaten up because he stolen money from people who let him sleep on their couch, stolen from his friends, stayed in abandoned houses, slept in a parking garage between bookcases, on and on and on. It's ugly, WM. Start trying to unhook from his drama. He can change his life, and he can start today. But it's up to him. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. [/QUOTE]
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