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Do more of 50% of cases where you kick your kid out works as a solution?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 666634" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>This is critical.</p><p>Some kids "choose" to be deadbeats. Others don't have as much choice - or at least, don't see or are unable to act on other alternatives.</p><p> </p><p>Drug use, stealing, violence or the threat of it... those are deal-breakers for me. The kid may still need help, and I may be able to present alternatives (rehab, etc). But those items make it so that I cannot be the source of help.</p><p> </p><p>Developmental delays and mental health issues can be a major factor, whether diagnosed or not. Nobody just "snaps out of" real depression, for example - and that's one of the more "ordinary" mental health concerns. Knowing what you are dealing with is critical to the whole decision process (allowing for previous paragraph).</p><p> </p><p>If any kid is living at home and not working and not going to school, I would make evaluations, therapy, and medications if indicated, key elements in the ability to stay at home. And I wouldn't be funding the "nice to haves" either. Roof to stay under, bed to sleep in, basic clothing, healthy food, and nothing else. No cell phone, no internet, no games, no money...</p><p> </p><p>If he doesn't like that, he can either get off his butt and fund his own life, OR be willing for medical intervention... OR leave.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 666634, member: 11791"] This is critical. Some kids "choose" to be deadbeats. Others don't have as much choice - or at least, don't see or are unable to act on other alternatives. Drug use, stealing, violence or the threat of it... those are deal-breakers for me. The kid may still need help, and I may be able to present alternatives (rehab, etc). But those items make it so that I cannot be the source of help. Developmental delays and mental health issues can be a major factor, whether diagnosed or not. Nobody just "snaps out of" real depression, for example - and that's one of the more "ordinary" mental health concerns. Knowing what you are dealing with is critical to the whole decision process (allowing for previous paragraph). If any kid is living at home and not working and not going to school, I would make evaluations, therapy, and medications if indicated, key elements in the ability to stay at home. And I wouldn't be funding the "nice to haves" either. Roof to stay under, bed to sleep in, basic clothing, healthy food, and nothing else. No cell phone, no internet, no games, no money... If he doesn't like that, he can either get off his butt and fund his own life, OR be willing for medical intervention... OR leave. [/QUOTE]
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