AnnieO
Shooting from the Hip
The first time I saw husband, there was a very strong connection. I knew at that moment that this could be the ONE. However, since it was the second time for both of us and we each had our own kids to protect, our first date was a five hour long interview. We made a choice to follow through from that initial spark.
I couldn't have said it any better. It's true - because even before I married husband, I had to make the decision to put up with the idiosyncrasies of his family, his children, his XW. That is one reason why, though we were discussing marriage by the end of the first month, it took us over a year and a half to actually do that. I had to be sure. And I still had some qualms. But I chose to do it.
And lately - up until the last few weeks - it's been a real struggle. And I wanted to just chuck it all (a lot of you know this!!!). But I made a commitment so I thought - just maybe - I would try for just a little longer. Just a little bit more. And it paid off... Finally.
I did love XH. He was at one point my best friend. And then... We both thought marrying good friends was a great idea! Um. Not so much. The very things that kept us friends tore us apart as a couple. And I was no longer in love with him long before I left. I do miss my friend. I made the choice there, too. I care still - but I don't love him.