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Do the holidays bother those of us with little to no FOO?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 672844" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I think that if our kids had been okay, or if they had been okay sooner, then I would have stayed in that place your friend was, too. </p><p></p><p>She has had to be very strong.</p><p></p><p>Destructive, abusive preferences have come blatantly to the forefront since my father's death. It seemed I must be wrong about what I thought I was seeing, and I wondered what was the matter with me.</p><p></p><p>But it wasn't me. </p><p></p><p>There really is something very wrong with the way family is perceived and valued in my family of origin.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Okay. So I feel deflated, because I wanted to be loving and strong and welcoming too, but I no longer believe in that dream where my family of origin is concerned. </p><p></p><p>I am so jealous of your friend, that she was able to do it when I could not.</p><p></p><p>Does the friend have a sister?</p><p></p><p>This is a loaded question. If she doesn't have a sister, then I can blame that I could not stay in that loving and accepting place on my rotten sister instead of myself.</p><p></p><p>So, I'm hoping she did not have any sisters.</p><p></p><p>Ahem.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 672844, member: 17461"] I think that if our kids had been okay, or if they had been okay sooner, then I would have stayed in that place your friend was, too. She has had to be very strong. Destructive, abusive preferences have come blatantly to the forefront since my father's death. It seemed I must be wrong about what I thought I was seeing, and I wondered what was the matter with me. But it wasn't me. There really is something very wrong with the way family is perceived and valued in my family of origin. *** Okay. So I feel deflated, because I wanted to be loving and strong and welcoming too, but I no longer believe in that dream where my family of origin is concerned. I am so jealous of your friend, that she was able to do it when I could not. Does the friend have a sister? This is a loaded question. If she doesn't have a sister, then I can blame that I could not stay in that loving and accepting place on my rotten sister instead of myself. So, I'm hoping she did not have any sisters. Ahem. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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