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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 34661" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Kjs: wanted to jump in here quick on this topic. It's unfortunate, but online chatting has basically replaced hanging out in a group and talking, or like I used to do when I was a teen - setting up multiple three-way calls for a party line chat.</p><p></p><p>Online, you can't see someone's face, you can't hear their tone of voice, and you can't read their body language. It isn't uncommon for people to <strong>completely</strong> misread what someone is trying to <em>say</em> online because of this. Add to that the fact that many teens don't have good grammar or communication skills, and the lack of other non-verbal input to interpret meaning only exacerbates the problem.</p><p></p><p>Both at work and at home, I always try to caution people (and my kids) to both watch what they say online or in email, and to "take 5" before responding to a post or email they think is an attack or insulting. And afterwards, if they're still angry, use a phone or visit the person to confirm that the other person actually meant to say what you thought they said. Many times, you'll find the other person never meant what you thought, but because of the medium used to communicate the person on the receiving end doesn't have a clue.</p><p></p><p>I know this is a small point of your overall post, but I think picking up a good Dummies Guide or "xxx for complete idiots" book to help your difficult child understand this would go a long way to preventing these problems. I can't tell you the number of times my kids almost got into a fight, or broke up with friends, because of miscommunication via chat. I also know of at least one person who got fired at work because she misread the intent of an email from her boss, overreacted, and got the boot.</p><p></p><p>Just my two pennies worth.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 34661, member: 3579"] Kjs: wanted to jump in here quick on this topic. It's unfortunate, but online chatting has basically replaced hanging out in a group and talking, or like I used to do when I was a teen - setting up multiple three-way calls for a party line chat. Online, you can't see someone's face, you can't hear their tone of voice, and you can't read their body language. It isn't uncommon for people to [B]completely[/B] misread what someone is trying to [I]say[/I] online because of this. Add to that the fact that many teens don't have good grammar or communication skills, and the lack of other non-verbal input to interpret meaning only exacerbates the problem. Both at work and at home, I always try to caution people (and my kids) to both watch what they say online or in email, and to "take 5" before responding to a post or email they think is an attack or insulting. And afterwards, if they're still angry, use a phone or visit the person to confirm that the other person actually meant to say what you thought they said. Many times, you'll find the other person never meant what you thought, but because of the medium used to communicate the person on the receiving end doesn't have a clue. I know this is a small point of your overall post, but I think picking up a good Dummies Guide or "xxx for complete idiots" book to help your difficult child understand this would go a long way to preventing these problems. I can't tell you the number of times my kids almost got into a fight, or broke up with friends, because of miscommunication via chat. I also know of at least one person who got fired at work because she misread the intent of an email from her boss, overreacted, and got the boot. Just my two pennies worth. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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