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Do we get something out of enabling our grown kids?
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 637498" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>I had a dreadful relationship with my own parents, who were never 'there' for me in any way. I left home at 18 and they didn't even come to my first wedding. I would never have dreamt of asking them for anything.</p><p></p><p>I think my enabling behaviour was down to not wanting my relationship with my son to reach the pits of my own relationship with my parents. Maybe what I got out of it was, therefore, some way of finding closure about my feelings about my own parents and their dysfunctional parenting. Unfortunately I think I tried to over-compensate and, with hindsight, my own behaviour was as dysfunctional as theirs, but at least it was done with love and care, albeit too much love and care bordering on control.</p><p></p><p>Another thing that I got out of my enabling was weight loss caused by stress and misery. Not the healthiest way to lose weight though, haha.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 637498, member: 17650"] I had a dreadful relationship with my own parents, who were never 'there' for me in any way. I left home at 18 and they didn't even come to my first wedding. I would never have dreamt of asking them for anything. I think my enabling behaviour was down to not wanting my relationship with my son to reach the pits of my own relationship with my parents. Maybe what I got out of it was, therefore, some way of finding closure about my feelings about my own parents and their dysfunctional parenting. Unfortunately I think I tried to over-compensate and, with hindsight, my own behaviour was as dysfunctional as theirs, but at least it was done with love and care, albeit too much love and care bordering on control. Another thing that I got out of my enabling was weight loss caused by stress and misery. Not the healthiest way to lose weight though, haha. [/QUOTE]
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