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Do we get something out of enabling our grown kids?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 637511" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There is a difference between mental illness and bad choices. There is a difference between those who are cruel and dangerous to us and those who are ill with cancer and need our care and are gracious for it.</p><p></p><p>Most of us are not dealing with the type of mental illness that makes a person out of his/her mind. And most of us are dealing with thievery, verbal abuse to the extreme and our personal safety.</p><p></p><p>I would help an adult child who was mentally ill but kind and respectful. My son is abusive, dangerous and unwilling to take medication. I think most of us are in a different place than somebody who is caring for a loved one with cancer who is not a threat to our well being.</p><p></p><p>You have your own path to walk and it's a hard one. Yes, your son is very sick. But he is respectful of you and is not going to steal from you or hit you. Different circumstances. Nobody deserves to be abused and there is no excuse for abusing somebody. None.</p><p></p><p>Most of us are talking more about abusive adult children rather than sick ones. I am really glad for you that you do not have to fear your dear child. Please don't judge what you don't understand. We are all here for you and hope your son does well. You are doing what you need to do. We are too. Please understand <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 637511, member: 1550"] There is a difference between mental illness and bad choices. There is a difference between those who are cruel and dangerous to us and those who are ill with cancer and need our care and are gracious for it. Most of us are not dealing with the type of mental illness that makes a person out of his/her mind. And most of us are dealing with thievery, verbal abuse to the extreme and our personal safety. I would help an adult child who was mentally ill but kind and respectful. My son is abusive, dangerous and unwilling to take medication. I think most of us are in a different place than somebody who is caring for a loved one with cancer who is not a threat to our well being. You have your own path to walk and it's a hard one. Yes, your son is very sick. But he is respectful of you and is not going to steal from you or hit you. Different circumstances. Nobody deserves to be abused and there is no excuse for abusing somebody. None. Most of us are talking more about abusive adult children rather than sick ones. I am really glad for you that you do not have to fear your dear child. Please don't judge what you don't understand. We are all here for you and hope your son does well. You are doing what you need to do. We are too. Please understand :) [/QUOTE]
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