when it comes to the way you deal with your difficult child? Since difficult child's diagnosis was "changed" in January, I have found myself being more understanding and doing more teaching of skills than punishing. It seems to be working. I have decided to enroll him in an online middle school so I can make sure he gets the help (from me) he needs to understand what he's being taught. This seems good too. We are doing Occupational Therapist (OT) and he has a community social skills worker he goes with twice a week. But as I sit here thinking (I know, dangerous), am I doing what needs to be done for him to be successful as an adult? Will he ever be able to hold a job without "help"? Will he be able to live on his own when he is a compulsive spender (money in pocket needs to be spent)? Will he be able to handle life's frustrations without decking anyone that doesn't agree with him? Does anyone else have these doubts? I see so much potential in him but doubt myself when it comes to teaching him the things he's going to have to be able to do for himself. Am I doing more harm than good?