Charmedpea
New Member
Hello Everyone,
This week after we realized what was wrong with her we re-evaluated how to help her and how we do things our self.
Punishment fits the crime sorta speak.
We grounded her for not coming home on time the night before the overdose. After she was released from the hospital.
first we took away everything, once I did some reading on her disorders, I told hubby we need to make the punishment fit the crime.
Ok so we gave her back the computer for 1 hour a day, with me their the whole hour. and an hour on the phone a day. she was grounded from not going anywhere for a week. Their is a car show she wants to go to this weekend. We said ok, this week you must follow directions, no yelling, cursing at me, being disrepect. ETC. I told her yesturday to clean bathroom have it done before I get home.
Well she got mad so she left when to friends house (i think) and didnt clean the bathroom.
She came home intime for her softball practice which could only be 15min's because of doctors appointment. Which is the first one since she has been released from the hospital. Which she didnt want to go to. I said you promised me you would talk to her. Oh mom that is because I was hooked up to all that stuff in the hospital. when we got their she wanted me to go in. i told her no. I have gone into every appointment she has had. She needs to go in herself. Thank god she came out smiling. I kept waiting to see if she starts yelling at the dr. or walks out, or her mouth would start on the doctor as soon as she got in the car. None of that happened.
Her coach knows what happened, and is working with us and is going to give her little goals to meet in softball to improve her game. She is very good at it. She definiatly puts her heart into it.
Anyway, while we were driving, every person she saw, she would say *****, Oh I hate her, etc. I never realized how she doesnt like anyone. She has a hand full of friends that she gets along with. I told the doctor yesturday when daughter went to go into for appointment, what had happened and how do we enforce what she doesnt do or listen.
If she gets mad she just leaves. Now a walk around the block to me is fine, its a cooling off period. As long as she doesnt get sidetracked.
This week after we realized what was wrong with her we re-evaluated how to help her and how we do things our self.
Punishment fits the crime sorta speak.
We grounded her for not coming home on time the night before the overdose. After she was released from the hospital.
first we took away everything, once I did some reading on her disorders, I told hubby we need to make the punishment fit the crime.
Ok so we gave her back the computer for 1 hour a day, with me their the whole hour. and an hour on the phone a day. she was grounded from not going anywhere for a week. Their is a car show she wants to go to this weekend. We said ok, this week you must follow directions, no yelling, cursing at me, being disrepect. ETC. I told her yesturday to clean bathroom have it done before I get home.
Well she got mad so she left when to friends house (i think) and didnt clean the bathroom.
She came home intime for her softball practice which could only be 15min's because of doctors appointment. Which is the first one since she has been released from the hospital. Which she didnt want to go to. I said you promised me you would talk to her. Oh mom that is because I was hooked up to all that stuff in the hospital. when we got their she wanted me to go in. i told her no. I have gone into every appointment she has had. She needs to go in herself. Thank god she came out smiling. I kept waiting to see if she starts yelling at the dr. or walks out, or her mouth would start on the doctor as soon as she got in the car. None of that happened.
Her coach knows what happened, and is working with us and is going to give her little goals to meet in softball to improve her game. She is very good at it. She definiatly puts her heart into it.
Anyway, while we were driving, every person she saw, she would say *****, Oh I hate her, etc. I never realized how she doesnt like anyone. She has a hand full of friends that she gets along with. I told the doctor yesturday when daughter went to go into for appointment, what had happened and how do we enforce what she doesnt do or listen.
If she gets mad she just leaves. Now a walk around the block to me is fine, its a cooling off period. As long as she doesnt get sidetracked.