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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 677638" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>In smaller scale it would be common immature/teen (girl) behaviour. I have seen that in my sons' friends, when someone they have vaguely known has died (especially if that person has been young.) I mean, it is of course shocking, when you hear your school mate has committed suicide or gotten killed in accident, but if you have never even said 'hi' to that person, or maybe just that, because you were in same math class two years earlier, it doesn't count as personal tragedy, but nowadays many kids seem to act like it counts.</p><p></p><p>Part of course is very normal. We empathize and live our own, difficult to define, feelings through things that happen to others or even fictional happenings. But some people are extremely over dramatic about it. For most teens it is a phase and they learn to regulate their feelings better and while still empathize, and sometimes even feel strong emotions triggered by things happening to distant people or for example in the tv show or book, they are able to recognize, when it is not about them.</p><p></p><p>It seems your daughter has more difficulties regulating her feelings and less understanding of boundaries than would be typical in her age. And that is about her illness. She may be attention seeking, but she may not recognize it, or she may simply be so overwhelmed by her feelings she does not recognize that her sadness is not about passing of this person she barely knew, and more about something else. Remember, she has very good reasons to have strong feelings over loss of family members. </p><p></p><p>I have been known to be extremely over emotion over fictional character in the book, when it triggered a real, huge feeling in me. Because however I'm reasonable mature, self aware and more than little image concious, so I only shared those overwhelming feelings with a dog. I doubt your granddaughter is any of those things, really, and that may be why she doesn't understand boundaries and regulating her emotional expression in public.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 677638, member: 14557"] In smaller scale it would be common immature/teen (girl) behaviour. I have seen that in my sons' friends, when someone they have vaguely known has died (especially if that person has been young.) I mean, it is of course shocking, when you hear your school mate has committed suicide or gotten killed in accident, but if you have never even said 'hi' to that person, or maybe just that, because you were in same math class two years earlier, it doesn't count as personal tragedy, but nowadays many kids seem to act like it counts. Part of course is very normal. We empathize and live our own, difficult to define, feelings through things that happen to others or even fictional happenings. But some people are extremely over dramatic about it. For most teens it is a phase and they learn to regulate their feelings better and while still empathize, and sometimes even feel strong emotions triggered by things happening to distant people or for example in the tv show or book, they are able to recognize, when it is not about them. It seems your daughter has more difficulties regulating her feelings and less understanding of boundaries than would be typical in her age. And that is about her illness. She may be attention seeking, but she may not recognize it, or she may simply be so overwhelmed by her feelings she does not recognize that her sadness is not about passing of this person she barely knew, and more about something else. Remember, she has very good reasons to have strong feelings over loss of family members. I have been known to be extremely over emotion over fictional character in the book, when it triggered a real, huge feeling in me. Because however I'm reasonable mature, self aware and more than little image concious, so I only shared those overwhelming feelings with a dog. I doubt your granddaughter is any of those things, really, and that may be why she doesn't understand boundaries and regulating her emotional expression in public. [/QUOTE]
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