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Does anyone else find themselves pulling away from friends?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 657937" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I remember the first time someone mentioned isolating in alanon and I thought "I don't do that"...I'm the gregarious extrovert, always ready to go, seeking groups of people and then within a few weeks I realized I had started doing exactly that.</p><p></p><p>There is almost a formulaic process that we go through when we are dealing with this type of situation...the pain and suffering and fear</p><p>And helplessness that goes on and on for years watching....powerless...someone we love so dearly self destruct. </p><p></p><p>The good thing about this is we are not alone and we can learn about what we are going throw and allow ourselves to just...go through it...and then when we are really ready (completely sick and tired of living this way) we can decide to change.</p><p></p><p>It is a decision.</p><p></p><p>And then it takes committed hard work every single day in order to make progress. Thankfully there is a pathway. </p><p></p><p>Isolating is necessary periodically for us all. I came to see myself like a wounded animal who drags itself into a corner to rest, lick its wounds, get a little stronger and come back again. Isolating is a safety measure but it is not "the answer". The answer is to get help and support and tools and start the daily practice...when we are ready.</p><p></p><p>Like our loved ones, we have to be ready first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 657937, member: 17542"] I remember the first time someone mentioned isolating in alanon and I thought "I don't do that"...I'm the gregarious extrovert, always ready to go, seeking groups of people and then within a few weeks I realized I had started doing exactly that. There is almost a formulaic process that we go through when we are dealing with this type of situation...the pain and suffering and fear And helplessness that goes on and on for years watching....powerless...someone we love so dearly self destruct. The good thing about this is we are not alone and we can learn about what we are going throw and allow ourselves to just...go through it...and then when we are really ready (completely sick and tired of living this way) we can decide to change. It is a decision. And then it takes committed hard work every single day in order to make progress. Thankfully there is a pathway. Isolating is necessary periodically for us all. I came to see myself like a wounded animal who drags itself into a corner to rest, lick its wounds, get a little stronger and come back again. Isolating is a safety measure but it is not "the answer". The answer is to get help and support and tools and start the daily practice...when we are ready. Like our loved ones, we have to be ready first. [/QUOTE]
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