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Does he not care or is it a cry for help?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688339" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>First, this is just the beginning. The two weeks for the po to get back will go by quickly.</p><p></p><p>I would try to back off right now and let your son cook his own goose. I would document everything, even by photos or camera if you can. I would very quietly tell him your expectations and if there is any question of harm to him or anybody else I would call 911. Then when the probation officer comes back I would present him or her with a objective report.</p><p></p><p>I think I would call an IEP at the school and if he is not Special Education I would request that he be. You may need an advocate. I would call NAMI the parent-support group for those with mental illness in families. They should be able to help you find an advocate, if you want one.</p><p></p><p>You cannot allow yourself to be destroyed by this. If you are sacrificed what will become of your son and the rest of the family?</p><p></p><p>My remedy is historical mystery novels. I retreat. I go to bed and I read. </p><p></p><p>All of this is not your responsibility to handle alone. The school should help and probation would help. If your son is placed outside the home, and wants it, this will ease things up for you. I would not fight it.</p><p></p><p>These things happen in families. Sometimes with the closest of relationships--things blow up. That is what happened with me and my own son. </p><p></p><p>Try to rest and back off. The plan is in place. Let it unfold. Your son is driving this. You cannot stop him. He will achieve a result that he may not like at all. </p><p></p><p>This is the way it is for all kids, even the good ones. It is how they learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688339, member: 18958"] First, this is just the beginning. The two weeks for the po to get back will go by quickly. I would try to back off right now and let your son cook his own goose. I would document everything, even by photos or camera if you can. I would very quietly tell him your expectations and if there is any question of harm to him or anybody else I would call 911. Then when the probation officer comes back I would present him or her with a objective report. I think I would call an IEP at the school and if he is not Special Education I would request that he be. You may need an advocate. I would call NAMI the parent-support group for those with mental illness in families. They should be able to help you find an advocate, if you want one. You cannot allow yourself to be destroyed by this. If you are sacrificed what will become of your son and the rest of the family? My remedy is historical mystery novels. I retreat. I go to bed and I read. All of this is not your responsibility to handle alone. The school should help and probation would help. If your son is placed outside the home, and wants it, this will ease things up for you. I would not fight it. These things happen in families. Sometimes with the closest of relationships--things blow up. That is what happened with me and my own son. Try to rest and back off. The plan is in place. Let it unfold. Your son is driving this. You cannot stop him. He will achieve a result that he may not like at all. This is the way it is for all kids, even the good ones. It is how they learn. [/QUOTE]
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