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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 645273"><p>Hmmm.... Mike does not live in my home. That said - quite a few things hit home for me and struck a little fear in me. Mostly of "OH CRAP - is this will difficult child be Mike in 3 years????"</p><p></p><p>Right now, I am in a place of giving it time. It's a bit easier for me because my difficult child is respectful and takes his "duty" of being a good role model to pc17 pretty seriously. </p><p></p><p>I guess because my difficult child left home so abruptly and prematurely (in my opinion) - a part of me is trying to give him back those transition years of slowly leaving the nest in hopes that it will improve the outcome. I know he is out of options and I am choosing not to throw it in his face and hoping ONCE AGAIN he will take this opportunity to take a deep breath and figure out his life. He tends to runaway from his problems - his form of DENIAL - so I am also trying not to trigger the "flee impulse" in him. We shall see. It's still the honeymoon phase.</p><p></p><p>Though I am USA born and bred - I am of Italian descent and in my culture & FOO - adult children don't leave the nest until they are married. Now, this was not the case with my brothers or many of my cousins - and I married 6 months out of college so it's nbd in my own case. But there's always been a spirit of "this will always be your home" among parents and adult children in my family and that's how I feel about my own nearly adult kids. Again - so long as they are respectful and not causing havoc. I am also lucky to live in a house that is large enough to give us all our "own" space. </p><p></p><p>And I breathe a lot easier knowing that difficult child is alive and well and under my roof. I am downright gleeful if all 3 boys are here on the same night. And my h - he is happy when I am happy.</p><p></p><p>But definitely food for thought - I am bookmarking it for reference. It's not my worst nightmare for difficult child but the article hit close to home and the idea of difficult child being Mike is definitely a nightmare!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 645273"] Hmmm.... Mike does not live in my home. That said - quite a few things hit home for me and struck a little fear in me. Mostly of "OH CRAP - is this will difficult child be Mike in 3 years????" Right now, I am in a place of giving it time. It's a bit easier for me because my difficult child is respectful and takes his "duty" of being a good role model to pc17 pretty seriously. I guess because my difficult child left home so abruptly and prematurely (in my opinion) - a part of me is trying to give him back those transition years of slowly leaving the nest in hopes that it will improve the outcome. I know he is out of options and I am choosing not to throw it in his face and hoping ONCE AGAIN he will take this opportunity to take a deep breath and figure out his life. He tends to runaway from his problems - his form of DENIAL - so I am also trying not to trigger the "flee impulse" in him. We shall see. It's still the honeymoon phase. Though I am USA born and bred - I am of Italian descent and in my culture & FOO - adult children don't leave the nest until they are married. Now, this was not the case with my brothers or many of my cousins - and I married 6 months out of college so it's nbd in my own case. But there's always been a spirit of "this will always be your home" among parents and adult children in my family and that's how I feel about my own nearly adult kids. Again - so long as they are respectful and not causing havoc. I am also lucky to live in a house that is large enough to give us all our "own" space. And I breathe a lot easier knowing that difficult child is alive and well and under my roof. I am downright gleeful if all 3 boys are here on the same night. And my h - he is happy when I am happy. But definitely food for thought - I am bookmarking it for reference. It's not my worst nightmare for difficult child but the article hit close to home and the idea of difficult child being Mike is definitely a nightmare! [/QUOTE]
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