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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 645299" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>My husband's son is married to a wonderful woman who has two older brothers, both in their 50's who have been supported by their parents their entire lives. I think they are respectful, but they don't work and expect to be taken care of..... one lives in a condo the parents own and the other lives at home. All their needs are taken care of. One has a daughter who the parents raised. Everyone finds it strange except for the parents and the sons. Even the daughter, (my husband's daughter in law), is a nurse, works full time, has a son, owns a home...etc. thinks her brothers are lazy, unproductive, vacuous kinds of characters. They don't offer anything to anyone, they exist solely for their own pleasure. When the parents pass, the 3 of them will inherit quite a lot, however, it is clear to everyone that within a very short time, the brothers will run through all the money and be left with nothing and likely be in their 60's with no money, no job, nothing at all. </p><p></p><p>When I see something like that, what I believe is that character, strength, courage, compassion, resourcefulness, tenacity and assertiveness, among many other traits, are borne out of mistakes made and corrected, growth through having fallen down and figuring out how to pick yourself up, having goals and achieving them, or not and learning from it, working towards something important to you, valuing what you've earned on your own, pride in your accomplishments, beating the odds, finding meaning in what you do and providing for yourself and your family. These men didn't learn any of that. It's as if they missed the boat in life and just sat this one out.</p><p></p><p>At this stage of my life, the people I find the most interesting, who offer something important to me, are the ones who come with all the experiences of life, the ups and downs, the paths most of us take which are glorious <em>and</em> dismal, but we survive and it makes us who we are today. That richness of character can't be given or bought, it's earned by living a life.........a life which you have to show up for.......and in the showing up, you come alive with passion, vitality, beauty, resilience, love and connection. </p><p></p><p>It's a shame that people like Mike and the two brothers miss that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 645299, member: 13542"] My husband's son is married to a wonderful woman who has two older brothers, both in their 50's who have been supported by their parents their entire lives. I think they are respectful, but they don't work and expect to be taken care of..... one lives in a condo the parents own and the other lives at home. All their needs are taken care of. One has a daughter who the parents raised. Everyone finds it strange except for the parents and the sons. Even the daughter, (my husband's daughter in law), is a nurse, works full time, has a son, owns a home...etc. thinks her brothers are lazy, unproductive, vacuous kinds of characters. They don't offer anything to anyone, they exist solely for their own pleasure. When the parents pass, the 3 of them will inherit quite a lot, however, it is clear to everyone that within a very short time, the brothers will run through all the money and be left with nothing and likely be in their 60's with no money, no job, nothing at all. When I see something like that, what I believe is that character, strength, courage, compassion, resourcefulness, tenacity and assertiveness, among many other traits, are borne out of mistakes made and corrected, growth through having fallen down and figuring out how to pick yourself up, having goals and achieving them, or not and learning from it, working towards something important to you, valuing what you've earned on your own, pride in your accomplishments, beating the odds, finding meaning in what you do and providing for yourself and your family. These men didn't learn any of that. It's as if they missed the boat in life and just sat this one out. At this stage of my life, the people I find the most interesting, who offer something important to me, are the ones who come with all the experiences of life, the ups and downs, the paths most of us take which are glorious [I]and[/I] dismal, but we survive and it makes us who we are today. That richness of character can't be given or bought, it's earned by living a life.........a life which you have to show up for.......and in the showing up, you come alive with passion, vitality, beauty, resilience, love and connection. It's a shame that people like Mike and the two brothers miss that. [/QUOTE]
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