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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 687518" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with everybody else about the neuro-psychiatric evaluation. Any Children's Hospital will have a neuropsychologist who will do a comprehensive in depth evaluation. </p><p></p><p>I think there is hope. Her creativity will be something to build upon. Here she will find her meaning and her solace too. From this she can build an identity to be proud of. I know I sound unbelievably optimistic or naive. But I believe many if most creative people began living chaotic and confused lives. It is her task to learn to master her genius which now is mastering her.</p><p></p><p>Not everything is psychopathology in this world. Sometimes it is brilliance and creativity that has not yet been tamed.</p><p></p><p>I believe the school district is legally obligated to help you, up to and including placement in residential treatment. You may need to find a disability rights attorney or advocate.That is what we did. For free. They go with you to IEPs and force the school district to accept responsibility. I would look for a phone number for Disability Rights Advocates, an agency that helped us about 15 years ago. Even talking to them in another city would give you a place to begin.</p><p></p><p>I would not accept her back at home unless there is a proper school situation for her. That does not mean home schooling. By you are doing that you are taking over the responsibility of the school district to educate her in the proper setting. Do not do this. You are hurting her, yourselves and really, even other parents and children, by allowing the schools to be bullies. </p><p></p><p>They are abusive. They victimize children and parents by abrogating their legally mandated responsibilities. Theirs is the responsibility to educate every child not only the ones who are pliable and easy.</p><p></p><p>No more of this:</p><p></p><p></p><p>This will give you a break:</p><p>There must be a plan in place before you accept her home. A plan for her to be transported (free) to a proper school where she is safe and able to learn. They must pay for taxi to transport her if a school bus is unavailable.</p><p></p><p>If such a school cannot be found, the school district is legally responsible to pay for her to be housed in a treatment setting and schooled there.</p><p></p><p>If I were you I would look for Art or Music Therapy programs, and I would support any creative endeavor it was within my means to support. In most large cities there will be Art therapy programs where teens and adults to go who have been traumatized.</p><p></p><p>There are workbooks on how to apply art to dealing with trauma. Nowadays there are new treatments for trauma that are somatic, not verbal. Like walking, even. There is the belief now that traumatic emotions are retained in the body/mind and can be discharged. Any physical activity will be good for her. </p><p></p><p>There are books like those by Peter Levine (the name Tiger is in the title) that talk about age-old somatic based ways to discharge trauma. You might enlist your daughter's adaptive energy to learn herself how to help herself. </p><p></p><p>That person who can be enlisted to help herself is there. I would try to engage that person and be clear that you will no longer welcoming that other side of her. No child should be allowed to bully her parents, even through emotional dis-control. Insist at the hospital where she is that you be given the tools to manage her behavior and the training to do so.</p><p></p><p>She will have a discharge plan. Google on the internet applicable discharge plans for kids with your daughter's kinds of problems. Like training in behavior modification. Or respite. I do not know. </p><p></p><p>I am glad you are here. There is no way that any parent could do this alone. Our problems were less, but still I do not know how I did it. </p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 687518, member: 18958"] I agree with everybody else about the neuro-psychiatric evaluation. Any Children's Hospital will have a neuropsychologist who will do a comprehensive in depth evaluation. I think there is hope. Her creativity will be something to build upon. Here she will find her meaning and her solace too. From this she can build an identity to be proud of. I know I sound unbelievably optimistic or naive. But I believe many if most creative people began living chaotic and confused lives. It is her task to learn to master her genius which now is mastering her. Not everything is psychopathology in this world. Sometimes it is brilliance and creativity that has not yet been tamed. I believe the school district is legally obligated to help you, up to and including placement in residential treatment. You may need to find a disability rights attorney or advocate.That is what we did. For free. They go with you to IEPs and force the school district to accept responsibility. I would look for a phone number for Disability Rights Advocates, an agency that helped us about 15 years ago. Even talking to them in another city would give you a place to begin. I would not accept her back at home unless there is a proper school situation for her. That does not mean home schooling. By you are doing that you are taking over the responsibility of the school district to educate her in the proper setting. Do not do this. You are hurting her, yourselves and really, even other parents and children, by allowing the schools to be bullies. They are abusive. They victimize children and parents by abrogating their legally mandated responsibilities. Theirs is the responsibility to educate every child not only the ones who are pliable and easy. No more of this: This will give you a break: There must be a plan in place before you accept her home. A plan for her to be transported (free) to a proper school where she is safe and able to learn. They must pay for taxi to transport her if a school bus is unavailable. If such a school cannot be found, the school district is legally responsible to pay for her to be housed in a treatment setting and schooled there. If I were you I would look for Art or Music Therapy programs, and I would support any creative endeavor it was within my means to support. In most large cities there will be Art therapy programs where teens and adults to go who have been traumatized. There are workbooks on how to apply art to dealing with trauma. Nowadays there are new treatments for trauma that are somatic, not verbal. Like walking, even. There is the belief now that traumatic emotions are retained in the body/mind and can be discharged. Any physical activity will be good for her. There are books like those by Peter Levine (the name Tiger is in the title) that talk about age-old somatic based ways to discharge trauma. You might enlist your daughter's adaptive energy to learn herself how to help herself. That person who can be enlisted to help herself is there. I would try to engage that person and be clear that you will no longer welcoming that other side of her. No child should be allowed to bully her parents, even through emotional dis-control. Insist at the hospital where she is that you be given the tools to manage her behavior and the training to do so. She will have a discharge plan. Google on the internet applicable discharge plans for kids with your daughter's kinds of problems. Like training in behavior modification. Or respite. I do not know. I am glad you are here. There is no way that any parent could do this alone. Our problems were less, but still I do not know how I did it. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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