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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 40026" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>This sounds a bit like the memory problem easy child 2/difficult child 2 has as part of her ADD. Her brothers and other sister can always find their things. She's actually not bad with her things, but she would never remember what she had been taught in class. She could remember it partly for a week, but after two weeks had no recollection of ever having been taught it.</p><p></p><p>When she started on medications, the problem improved dramatically. It's sad, but she can remember very little of her childhood from before taking medications. And she is a very bright kid.</p><p></p><p>All I can suggest, for those of you whose kids have this sort of problem:</p><p></p><p>1) check their medication dosage; is it enough? Too much?</p><p></p><p>2) Try and support them in their 'forgetfulness' by double-checking them and getting them into a routine as to where things go. For example, my husband ALWAYS put his keys in a certain place. He also puts his wallet and notebook there and his special pen. If by chance he is distracted, or someone else has his keys and hands them to him at a time when he's too busy to put them away right then, he will lose them. He HAS to be organised, to cope.</p><p>mother in law has a basket inside her front door. She puts her keys there, her wallet and her library books. She puts her mail on the kitchen bench and sorts it into two piles - bills and letters. Bills then get moved to her desk where she keeps her cheque book.</p><p></p><p>It's all in being organised.</p><p></p><p>Also, for all parents who get frustrated and try to punish this - if they get more anxious about losing possessions, it makes the forgetfulness worse. Instead of confiscating missing items or items which they've asked you if YOU'VE taken, instead put 'found' items always in the same place. Alternatively, put these items always in a logical place to encourage the difficult child to keep those things there anyway.</p><p></p><p>When you have people like this in the family you HAVE to have some sort of system.</p><p>Where we live, we HAVE to be ready to leave as soon as the transport is leaving - we have strict deadlines. The boat only goes once an hour. husband's car only leaves once a day. Those wanting transport had better be ready and if they're missing their wallet, they miss their ride.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 40026, member: 1991"] This sounds a bit like the memory problem easy child 2/difficult child 2 has as part of her ADD. Her brothers and other sister can always find their things. She's actually not bad with her things, but she would never remember what she had been taught in class. She could remember it partly for a week, but after two weeks had no recollection of ever having been taught it. When she started on medications, the problem improved dramatically. It's sad, but she can remember very little of her childhood from before taking medications. And she is a very bright kid. All I can suggest, for those of you whose kids have this sort of problem: 1) check their medication dosage; is it enough? Too much? 2) Try and support them in their 'forgetfulness' by double-checking them and getting them into a routine as to where things go. For example, my husband ALWAYS put his keys in a certain place. He also puts his wallet and notebook there and his special pen. If by chance he is distracted, or someone else has his keys and hands them to him at a time when he's too busy to put them away right then, he will lose them. He HAS to be organised, to cope. mother in law has a basket inside her front door. She puts her keys there, her wallet and her library books. She puts her mail on the kitchen bench and sorts it into two piles - bills and letters. Bills then get moved to her desk where she keeps her cheque book. It's all in being organised. Also, for all parents who get frustrated and try to punish this - if they get more anxious about losing possessions, it makes the forgetfulness worse. Instead of confiscating missing items or items which they've asked you if YOU'VE taken, instead put 'found' items always in the same place. Alternatively, put these items always in a logical place to encourage the difficult child to keep those things there anyway. When you have people like this in the family you HAVE to have some sort of system. Where we live, we HAVE to be ready to leave as soon as the transport is leaving - we have strict deadlines. The boat only goes once an hour. husband's car only leaves once a day. Those wanting transport had better be ready and if they're missing their wallet, they miss their ride. Marg [/QUOTE]
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