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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 630946" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, ok, ok.</p><p></p><p>Time out...lol.</p><p></p><p>It is not your child's fault you have no relationship with your family. Sorry, they betrayed you. They used your daughtger to do it, sure, but they do not seem worthwhile of your having a warm relationship with them anyhow. If you did not have this child, they'd have found another reason to criticize and abuse you. They probably always did. Ok, so I could be wrong, but you can't hang their bad behavior on her, although she is a part of how they choose to hurt you.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, I personally would not have brought up that incident in front of my daughter. But if something slipped that my kid didn't like, I would not let that be a reason for her disrespect either. I do think an apology is in order, although not a long, smoozy one.</p><p></p><p>Third, I think your daughter is acting like a spoiled girl. She is not doing everything you want. Where is the most important thing? Where is her job? Why is she still asking you for money? Why does she feel entitled to your car since she isn't working?</p><p></p><p>This is just my opinion. Let her go back to KY. DO NOT PAY YOUR PARENTS ONE DIME TO CARE FOR HER. She is an adult and it's time that they treat her like one if they want her to live with them. Watch them suddenly want her to get a job.</p><p></p><p>Then work on taking care of yourself first and your other loved ones who are good to you. Don't fret over your parents and brother who remind me of my motley crew that I have to claim as DNA connections. Hang around with people who appreciate your good heart and your fun traits. Maybe go to therapy to learn how to move on because it's not easy to do it alone, but it's freeing once it's done. You can build your own caring support system. I didn't have one either. It is not because of your difficult child. Maybe, like me, you are shy and feel awkward around new people, but you can learn to be more comfortable. Most people can relay on family, but you and I don't have that unconditonal love/caring from our families so we have to look elsewhere. I was sad about that for many years. Trust me, I get it and feel badly for the isolation you feel. That was me for so long... Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 630946, member: 1550"] Ok, ok, ok. Time out...lol. It is not your child's fault you have no relationship with your family. Sorry, they betrayed you. They used your daughtger to do it, sure, but they do not seem worthwhile of your having a warm relationship with them anyhow. If you did not have this child, they'd have found another reason to criticize and abuse you. They probably always did. Ok, so I could be wrong, but you can't hang their bad behavior on her, although she is a part of how they choose to hurt you. Secondly, I personally would not have brought up that incident in front of my daughter. But if something slipped that my kid didn't like, I would not let that be a reason for her disrespect either. I do think an apology is in order, although not a long, smoozy one. Third, I think your daughter is acting like a spoiled girl. She is not doing everything you want. Where is the most important thing? Where is her job? Why is she still asking you for money? Why does she feel entitled to your car since she isn't working? This is just my opinion. Let her go back to KY. DO NOT PAY YOUR PARENTS ONE DIME TO CARE FOR HER. She is an adult and it's time that they treat her like one if they want her to live with them. Watch them suddenly want her to get a job. Then work on taking care of yourself first and your other loved ones who are good to you. Don't fret over your parents and brother who remind me of my motley crew that I have to claim as DNA connections. Hang around with people who appreciate your good heart and your fun traits. Maybe go to therapy to learn how to move on because it's not easy to do it alone, but it's freeing once it's done. You can build your own caring support system. I didn't have one either. It is not because of your difficult child. Maybe, like me, you are shy and feel awkward around new people, but you can learn to be more comfortable. Most people can relay on family, but you and I don't have that unconditonal love/caring from our families so we have to look elsewhere. I was sad about that for many years. Trust me, I get it and feel badly for the isolation you feel. That was me for so long... Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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