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robin5kids
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Hi! I am new here. i started looking up forums for spirited children and finally found this one.
I have 5 kids. My now 12 y/o has been a spirited children from the time he was about 3 y/o. We started noticing when he was 3 and 4 that he was having very long tantrums, over the smallest things. The tantrums continued for years. He could throw a tantrum over such silly things. Now he is 12 and still can cry at the drop of a hat.
Here are the things we have had to deal with:
1. Can be happy one minute and angry and sad the next second.
2. Still can cry like a baby over anything!
3. Has few friends
4. Gets frustrated about anything he does not want to do or can't do well.
5. Attacks siblings whenever they say or do anything he does like.
6. Can debate and argue about anything he feels is not fair till he is blue in the face.
7. When he is in a bad mood, he can't disengage and leave. He will follow us around and yell, call us names.
8. needs to be hugged at least 3-5 times before he goes to bed.
Good things about him:
He likes to go to sleep over camps and to his friend's house for sleepovers. When he is in a good mood, he is great company. He is great at many outdoor sports, like skateboarding, hiking, climbing, kayaking.
We just don't know what to do at home. He has not been a problem at school or at outside things, but recently he is starting to become a problem. He has started to cry and throw tantrums outside the house. During a swim practice I was watching, I saw he was arguing in the pool with another boy.
We have started seeing a therapist, but i just don't see how this is going to change things. I don't like medications, but I am starting to think he needs them.
Suggestions? Help?
Robin
I have 5 kids. My now 12 y/o has been a spirited children from the time he was about 3 y/o. We started noticing when he was 3 and 4 that he was having very long tantrums, over the smallest things. The tantrums continued for years. He could throw a tantrum over such silly things. Now he is 12 and still can cry at the drop of a hat.
Here are the things we have had to deal with:
1. Can be happy one minute and angry and sad the next second.
2. Still can cry like a baby over anything!
3. Has few friends
4. Gets frustrated about anything he does not want to do or can't do well.
5. Attacks siblings whenever they say or do anything he does like.
6. Can debate and argue about anything he feels is not fair till he is blue in the face.
7. When he is in a bad mood, he can't disengage and leave. He will follow us around and yell, call us names.
8. needs to be hugged at least 3-5 times before he goes to bed.
Good things about him:
He likes to go to sleep over camps and to his friend's house for sleepovers. When he is in a good mood, he is great company. He is great at many outdoor sports, like skateboarding, hiking, climbing, kayaking.
We just don't know what to do at home. He has not been a problem at school or at outside things, but recently he is starting to become a problem. He has started to cry and throw tantrums outside the house. During a swim practice I was watching, I saw he was arguing in the pool with another boy.
We have started seeing a therapist, but i just don't see how this is going to change things. I don't like medications, but I am starting to think he needs them.
Suggestions? Help?
Robin