Hello everyone,
I am new to this forum. Our 13 year old son has been out of control for about 3 years. We have him on medication, in therapy, and have sent him for inpatient treatment once. We are currently trying to have him placed in a residential treatment facility. Nothing seems to help. He is just getting worse. He is constantly stealing, and even when he is caught red handed, claims he didn't take anything. He is currently on probation for stealing a check from a teacher and putting it into his school lunch account. Anytime he is told to do something he doesn't want to do, doesn't get his way, or gets caught doing something wrong, he gets violently aggressive. Tomorrow he will be going to alternative school for the second time. This time for attacking a boy in the locker room. He acts as if adults don't have the right to tell him to do anything, and is constantly cussing and being disrespectful towards adults. Lately, he has started to act out sexually. He tries to watch his sisters, and me in the shower, and we have had to put up extra doors and locks to keep him out of the girls' rooms at night. It feels like anytime we try to get help for him, the whole thing gets twisted to make us look like horrible parents. He is so manipulative that he even has his therapist believing that we are making it all up. Luckily, his psychiatrist sees that he is the issue, and is working with us to get him placed in inpatient therapy. His therapist thinks that inpatient isn't needed, and that we just need to do an intervention. Everyone at his school seems to think that we are doing nothing to correct his issues, and seem shocked when they hear all the steps that we have taken. It feels like no matter how hard we try, we just aren't getting anywhere. It is so frustrating. Any ideas on what we can do next would be greatly appreciated.
I am new to this forum. Our 13 year old son has been out of control for about 3 years. We have him on medication, in therapy, and have sent him for inpatient treatment once. We are currently trying to have him placed in a residential treatment facility. Nothing seems to help. He is just getting worse. He is constantly stealing, and even when he is caught red handed, claims he didn't take anything. He is currently on probation for stealing a check from a teacher and putting it into his school lunch account. Anytime he is told to do something he doesn't want to do, doesn't get his way, or gets caught doing something wrong, he gets violently aggressive. Tomorrow he will be going to alternative school for the second time. This time for attacking a boy in the locker room. He acts as if adults don't have the right to tell him to do anything, and is constantly cussing and being disrespectful towards adults. Lately, he has started to act out sexually. He tries to watch his sisters, and me in the shower, and we have had to put up extra doors and locks to keep him out of the girls' rooms at night. It feels like anytime we try to get help for him, the whole thing gets twisted to make us look like horrible parents. He is so manipulative that he even has his therapist believing that we are making it all up. Luckily, his psychiatrist sees that he is the issue, and is working with us to get him placed in inpatient therapy. His therapist thinks that inpatient isn't needed, and that we just need to do an intervention. Everyone at his school seems to think that we are doing nothing to correct his issues, and seem shocked when they hear all the steps that we have taken. It feels like no matter how hard we try, we just aren't getting anywhere. It is so frustrating. Any ideas on what we can do next would be greatly appreciated.
