Okay, the last time we talked with difficult child was June 08. We did see him while he was driving in October. When I went over to his apartment in Nov to leave a XMas card and invite him to dinner, the apartment was empty. He has always let us know where he was. The things I do know: 1. Per his landlord and post office, there is no forwarding address. 2. From the manager of the building, he and his girlfriend (the mom of one of his friends, age 42) have split up and gone their separate ways. 3. I know where the girlfriend works and called her but she wouldn't come to the phone. 4. I know of one friend and I called his parents and left a message asking that they call me. So...husband and I are kinda at a loss. It might not occur to difficult child to contact us as we haven't really had a relationship in a long time and I know he blames me for his entire life's problems -lol. However, on the other hand, we love him very much and know that the lifestyle he has chosen could result in big problems. The one thing is that we have a very unusual last name and I think if something tragic happened, we could be located. We haven't moved or changed phone numbers so difficult child should be able to reach us if he wanted to. Any suggestions? Should we cont to search, leave things alone or what? Thanks.