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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 31691" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Hi Grace. Can't be all bad. Even in the <strong>worst</strong> periods of acting out, my son still has a soft spot for our pet dog. There are times when he'll walk in, not say a word to me or wife, but will walk right up to the dog, sit down, and snuggle. And when he does, he is truly content in a way that I haven't seen since he was a small child.</p><p></p><p>In some way, that gives me hope. Hope that whatever drives my son to be a difficult child and not "care" about us isn't his general outlook on life. If he has room in his heart for our dog, and if he has room in his heart for his easy child girlfriend, then maybe one day we'll work things out and there'll be room in his heart for his parents again as well.</p><p></p><p>Just not right now.</p><p></p><p>So, I would look at the kitty as a way to keep your difficult child connected to those feelings you want to reinforce: love, compassion, concern, empathy, etc. You could also use it to teach responsibility, etc.., but I don't know if doing that would cause your difficult child to act out or cancel the positive effect of a new kitty.</p><p></p><p>And maybe, this would be good for you as well. I've lost several favorite pets in the past, and I know they cannot be replaced. But there's a need in me to express love. So, even though I miss my old companion, I always manage to find a way to make room in my heart for a new furbaby. It works out (for me, anyway).</p><p> </p><p>Just a thought.</p><p></p><p>As an aside, there is a whole discipline built around "pet therapy", where animals are used to help reach people who otherwise can't be reached; whether it's emotional issues, psychiatric issues, or even hardened criminals, somehow pet therapy finds a way to reach them all.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 31691, member: 3579"] Hi Grace. Can't be all bad. Even in the [b]worst[/b] periods of acting out, my son still has a soft spot for our pet dog. There are times when he'll walk in, not say a word to me or wife, but will walk right up to the dog, sit down, and snuggle. And when he does, he is truly content in a way that I haven't seen since he was a small child. In some way, that gives me hope. Hope that whatever drives my son to be a difficult child and not "care" about us isn't his general outlook on life. If he has room in his heart for our dog, and if he has room in his heart for his easy child girlfriend, then maybe one day we'll work things out and there'll be room in his heart for his parents again as well. Just not right now. So, I would look at the kitty as a way to keep your difficult child connected to those feelings you want to reinforce: love, compassion, concern, empathy, etc. You could also use it to teach responsibility, etc.., but I don't know if doing that would cause your difficult child to act out or cancel the positive effect of a new kitty. And maybe, this would be good for you as well. I've lost several favorite pets in the past, and I know they cannot be replaced. But there's a need in me to express love. So, even though I miss my old companion, I always manage to find a way to make room in my heart for a new furbaby. It works out (for me, anyway). Just a thought. As an aside, there is a whole discipline built around "pet therapy", where animals are used to help reach people who otherwise can't be reached; whether it's emotional issues, psychiatric issues, or even hardened criminals, somehow pet therapy finds a way to reach them all. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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