Sorry for the dramatic title... But I feel like everything with difficult child is part of the butterfly effect :/ He and little brother were done playing toy cars and I asked them to clean up, fully aware I was waking the butterfly... My little guy, who is almost 21 months, starts to clean up. (What a new experience my second child has been) difficult child starts saying "I will never clean up. WHen you tell me to clean up, I will never clean up, I hate you, you're bad...Of course this gets louder and louder. I do hand over hand, and "help" him to clean. If I don't do this, he will drag the situation long enough for my little guy to clean up all the toys. I've been doing hand over hand for clean up, something suggested by his therapists when he was 2, since he was 2...and we've gone from it causing complete physical melt downs with hitting and kicking, to just verbally abusive language now. Yeah for progress. But long story short, it doesn't end when we are done cleaning. It just snow balls, as now he is looking to take his anger out. Fast forward an hour later, and the pooh has hit the fan. UGH!! All because he was asked to clean up a few cars. I know kids don't like to clean up, but this is ridiculous!! And I am starting to worry that my little guy shouldnt be seeing this display of behavior. I notice my younger son is watching more and more, almost in confusion and fright that my son explodes at such small requests... I just hate when I think to myself that asking difficult child to clean up/ put on his hat/ any random request that this little request is going to set off a huge problem....and now with my younger one, I am starting to see how a typical child would behave... No point to this post. Just venting!!