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<blockquote data-quote="wisernow" data-source="post: 713402" data-attributes="member: 20373"><p>Oh i can read how very very HURT you are by all of this and i cant say i blame you. You have tried so very very hard and yet he made his own choices which ended up badly. Perhaps write a letter to him advising that for health reasons right now you don't want to have any contact for a period of time. You need time to heal, and reclaim your life and that means doing a lot of hard work on you hopefully with the help of a therapist. When i detached from my son i advised him that the emotional bank account was overdrawn, i couldn't take the issues and drama anymore and that he needed to work on his life and i needed to work on mine and perhaps in the future we could have a relationship. at that time i did not know whether it would work out or not... its still a process....we have a relationship but it is forever changed. I now see him on my terms, when I want to and that's it. I have set boundaries to protect myself and my new life. You are not your son's punching bag, therapist or social worker. He can find those on his own. Its time for you now Teri to take care of yourself! Hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wisernow, post: 713402, member: 20373"] Oh i can read how very very HURT you are by all of this and i cant say i blame you. You have tried so very very hard and yet he made his own choices which ended up badly. Perhaps write a letter to him advising that for health reasons right now you don't want to have any contact for a period of time. You need time to heal, and reclaim your life and that means doing a lot of hard work on you hopefully with the help of a therapist. When i detached from my son i advised him that the emotional bank account was overdrawn, i couldn't take the issues and drama anymore and that he needed to work on his life and i needed to work on mine and perhaps in the future we could have a relationship. at that time i did not know whether it would work out or not... its still a process....we have a relationship but it is forever changed. I now see him on my terms, when I want to and that's it. I have set boundaries to protect myself and my new life. You are not your son's punching bag, therapist or social worker. He can find those on his own. Its time for you now Teri to take care of yourself! Hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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