OMG! I am so exhausted! This stuff with mother in law is wiping me out. And I'm seriously not really doing that much. I mean, yeah, husband and I are running back and forth getting things to help her settle in better and make her more comfortable......But it's not like I'm running a marathon or anything. easy child says it's the emotional part getting to me. And I guess she's right. Nichole had a nightmare that her grandmother's ghost came to live with us. easy child has been having nitemares that her grandmother becomes combative........and you can guess where that goes. And even husband has been having nitemares about his mother haunting us. WTH?? husband decides he's gonna tell me about it......and I told him to JUST SHUT UP! Having 3 different people having similar nitemares is more than a bit unsettling.....I don't need details people. sheesh Good grief, she's gone to a nursing home, she hasn't passed on. Then we go to visit and need to be cheerful and optomistic, when I'm anything but. They still haven't had her walking.....and I'm getting worried. She's not moving those legs very much at all and the pain is excruciating. Nor does she want to get up and walk, which is what she usually does. Reinforcements arrived on schedule. mother in law blew them out of the water. She's been so good with us about all this, so I didn't prepare them for anything emotional..........And when they walk into the room she opens her arms with tears in her eyes and asks them to please take her home. Tore their hearts out, and well, even getting it 2nd hand it did a number on mine too. They did bring her out of it though and after a 2 hr visit left her in a more positive mood. Tomorrow is the Talk. I'm not sure how far we're gonna get as we've no clue at this point how well mother in law is going to do. Sister in law is going to visit her ex boss (mother in law's doctor) on monday and rip him a new one. Now that she doesn't work for him, I'd love to be a fly on the wall. Too bad I have class. It ought to be awesome. lol And she's going to get the low down on HIS plans for mother in law. There are so many things we have to look into.....and learn about. Sister in law has a head start on me as she did some of the ground work a few years back when we were trying to get mother in law into assisted living. I haven't really got a clue. Except. I know many places now take you via Reverse Morgage. This is where you sign your house over to the assisted living place or nursing home and they "pay" your rent/fee and give you a small monthly allowance depending on how much they give your for it. This is mother in law's only hope. But I don't know dittly about it and neither does sister in law. But we both agreed that if we have to use this......where ever mother in law ends up will have to care for her until she dies or it's just not worth it. Cuz if it's assisted living and she has to move later........her house is gone and she has nothing else. OMG this is friggin' HARD. And if you've noticed I've not mentioned the sons...........Well, they're being typical men and letting their wives do all the dirty work. This could drag on. She has 20 days to get better at the nursing home. After that she has to pay. If this runs into the start of next quarter I'm going to have to drop those classes too. No way can I do all that needs to be done with mother in law and do that too. I'm ready for a vacation.