Ok, so I've been volunteering three days a week at a place I loved. We help gather and give out items to the needy and I loved my co-workers and the clients and I am in my element when I can help out. The pay socks, but I am still afraid to get another real job and can't make too much anyway because of my benefits so I was really feeling useful. This woman, whom I will call Jane, is a volunteer with issues...alcoholism, bipolar, probably borderline...she is usually nice, but she is a major drama queen. Those of you who wonder if it ever quits, so do I. This woman is my age....sixty. Much like the bus driver I had when I worked at Head Start, she took a dislike to me. I'm not sure why this happens to me so often. I think it's because I seem very meek and am easy for people to pick on. I look very easy to walk all over too. At any rate, I don't care what Jane thinks of me, but the head of the organization today called me into her office and told me that she is really angry that I told Jane all about our conversation that we had had about Jane (this was last week, supposedly after hours). Jane must have hung back and heard because she told the lady everything we said. I hadn't told her about it. I try to avoid her. But the boss insisted that nobody was there but she and I and that I must have told Jane what she had told me, which I didn't. I thought I was back in Head Start! After insisting I never told her and not sure if she believed me, I went outside in tears and thought, "Here we go again." But since it's a volunteer position, I can blow it off and find another place with the same pay and benefits so it's not as bad. However, I am absolutely shocked, even after all these years, at how drama seems to happen in spades whenever there are a pack of women in a workplace. It is the reason why I never hung in cliques and why I would rather socialize one-on-one. However, if I want to volunteer, I can't really do one-on-one. Does anyone else experience this chronic drama at every gathering of women, be it work or volunteering or the Parent-Teacher meetings or just committees. The way I see it, it's not about jealousy. Since none of us are getting paid, who can be jealous of who and why???? We all do the same things. In my younger, more borderline days I may have told the lady in charge to take her volunteer position and stuff it, but I'm older now and I just listened then went outside to ponder. It is no surprise children bully other children. Grown ups do the same thing and it's just as nasty. Any thoughts? If not, this was just a puzzled vent.