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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 707224" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Hi Jessica</p><p></p><p>You are really paying a lot for sober living. We moved my son to Florida after his last rehab for several reasons. He did not do good coming home after rehab before and he really had bad contacts in our home and we wanted some peace. Also we have a condo in Florida a few hours from where we took him and I figured worst case he's homeless at least he won't freeze. </p><p></p><p>We were able to negotiate a price for all the sober livings he attended. Usually paid 1/2 or less on what they originally asked for. By the way, he was in 3 in Florida and drank or did something stupid and ended up getting kicked out or put back into a higher level of treatment. After the last one we let him be homeless for about a week and he hated it naturally but we wanted him to know we were no longer playing games. He did not like the meetings either and did not like AA.</p><p></p><p>He ended up finding an apartment to share on Craigslist and since has been working 30 hours a week and is now taking one college class which is all we could afford since we're paying out of state tuition. He is living with a nice middle aged lady that lets him have full use of the apartment and it's walking distance to school and work. He was very lucky. We are paying 2/3 of his rent but he pays for everything else for the most part. It's not a lot. We will do this while he is in school. He likes his job and he is liking school and wishes he could take more classes. Is he 100% sober? No. He is not. I know he drinks beer sometimes and smokes weed. Do I like it? No. Can I control it? No. Do I really care? No. I know that HE has a commitment every day of the week and if he was using hard drugs he would NOT be able to keep it all going. He never could before.</p><p></p><p>He's now being responsible and figuring things out for himself and problem solving and for the most part we are pretty happy with the way things are. He knows if he screws up and loses his job he will be homeless again and that is a big fear for him. That may be what keeps him on track. I don't know. I have had to learn to accept the way he is whether I like it or not. I hope that as he matures he will evolve into the man I would like him to be and that I feel he can be and he says wants to be but I just don't know if that will happen. We remain optimistic even though we've been through hell and back. We don't know what caused him to go off the rails. He was brought up in a very loving home like most of these kids. He is just wired differently. </p><p></p><p>It works for us and that's all that matters. Everyone has their own journey and their own story and there is no one size fits all for any of us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 707224, member: 15032"] Hi Jessica You are really paying a lot for sober living. We moved my son to Florida after his last rehab for several reasons. He did not do good coming home after rehab before and he really had bad contacts in our home and we wanted some peace. Also we have a condo in Florida a few hours from where we took him and I figured worst case he's homeless at least he won't freeze. We were able to negotiate a price for all the sober livings he attended. Usually paid 1/2 or less on what they originally asked for. By the way, he was in 3 in Florida and drank or did something stupid and ended up getting kicked out or put back into a higher level of treatment. After the last one we let him be homeless for about a week and he hated it naturally but we wanted him to know we were no longer playing games. He did not like the meetings either and did not like AA. He ended up finding an apartment to share on Craigslist and since has been working 30 hours a week and is now taking one college class which is all we could afford since we're paying out of state tuition. He is living with a nice middle aged lady that lets him have full use of the apartment and it's walking distance to school and work. He was very lucky. We are paying 2/3 of his rent but he pays for everything else for the most part. It's not a lot. We will do this while he is in school. He likes his job and he is liking school and wishes he could take more classes. Is he 100% sober? No. He is not. I know he drinks beer sometimes and smokes weed. Do I like it? No. Can I control it? No. Do I really care? No. I know that HE has a commitment every day of the week and if he was using hard drugs he would NOT be able to keep it all going. He never could before. He's now being responsible and figuring things out for himself and problem solving and for the most part we are pretty happy with the way things are. He knows if he screws up and loses his job he will be homeless again and that is a big fear for him. That may be what keeps him on track. I don't know. I have had to learn to accept the way he is whether I like it or not. I hope that as he matures he will evolve into the man I would like him to be and that I feel he can be and he says wants to be but I just don't know if that will happen. We remain optimistic even though we've been through hell and back. We don't know what caused him to go off the rails. He was brought up in a very loving home like most of these kids. He is just wired differently. It works for us and that's all that matters. Everyone has their own journey and their own story and there is no one size fits all for any of us. [/QUOTE]
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