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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 724476" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Thanks SWOT. </p><p>I agree it is the conundrum. I too don’t really want him here the way he is behaving. However he can’t be on the streets or he will be back in jail. And you are correct I only have so much energy to dedicate to minding him. He is compliant with school and curfew Mon to Sun and I can’t be his rehab. </p><p></p><p>For now until the rehab bed is available it is what it is. As frustrating as that is. </p><p></p><p>He will be entering a long term rehab program 6 months minimum. His 2 goes at out patient intensive rehab were a joke and I believe the same would happen to him in a 30/60 or even 90 day program. </p><p></p><p>Let’s hope long term rehab and third time is the charm. He is court mandated to go and complete rehab or he will go to jail. </p><p></p><p>The annoyance of this girlfriend and her “Cop” mother, I agree they are enablers and poor choices for him. I don’t own his choices. Frankly and guiltily I don’t want to intervene because is would suck too much out of me. I tell him exactly how I feel. I also tell him exactly how I feel about his choices and indeed they are his. I also tell him I will be involved with his hearing post rehab and I have no intentions of candy coating the truth nor will I ever lie for him. He will have to deal with what he creates as a life for himself. </p><p></p><p>I agree that the motivation for him to enter rehab is scripted. However the intake officer spoke with me from his long term rehab and after her assessment she feels he is genuine in his desire for rehab and that is a big benefit. She feels if he does work the program he will succeed. She also agrees I can not be rehab for him and she said as long as he does not breach the no drugs or alcohol in the home , and not to come home blizted or under the influence to leave it at that. I am sure this is why he crashes at the GFs and it massages me to no end that this mother allows this kind of behaviour. </p><p></p><p>So the razors edge is fine, do I give him the boot because of these frustrations or do I tolerate and bide the time until he goes off to rehab. I am choosing the latter. I don’t like it but I have made that choice. </p><p></p><p>Yes this too shall pass....like a bad kidney stone. </p><p></p><p>Hubs and I fully intent to unplug and unwind. And by then by God the count down for a bed should be weeks not months.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 724476, member: 21895"] Thanks SWOT. I agree it is the conundrum. I too don’t really want him here the way he is behaving. However he can’t be on the streets or he will be back in jail. And you are correct I only have so much energy to dedicate to minding him. He is compliant with school and curfew Mon to Sun and I can’t be his rehab. For now until the rehab bed is available it is what it is. As frustrating as that is. He will be entering a long term rehab program 6 months minimum. His 2 goes at out patient intensive rehab were a joke and I believe the same would happen to him in a 30/60 or even 90 day program. Let’s hope long term rehab and third time is the charm. He is court mandated to go and complete rehab or he will go to jail. The annoyance of this girlfriend and her “Cop” mother, I agree they are enablers and poor choices for him. I don’t own his choices. Frankly and guiltily I don’t want to intervene because is would suck too much out of me. I tell him exactly how I feel. I also tell him exactly how I feel about his choices and indeed they are his. I also tell him I will be involved with his hearing post rehab and I have no intentions of candy coating the truth nor will I ever lie for him. He will have to deal with what he creates as a life for himself. I agree that the motivation for him to enter rehab is scripted. However the intake officer spoke with me from his long term rehab and after her assessment she feels he is genuine in his desire for rehab and that is a big benefit. She feels if he does work the program he will succeed. She also agrees I can not be rehab for him and she said as long as he does not breach the no drugs or alcohol in the home , and not to come home blizted or under the influence to leave it at that. I am sure this is why he crashes at the GFs and it massages me to no end that this mother allows this kind of behaviour. So the razors edge is fine, do I give him the boot because of these frustrations or do I tolerate and bide the time until he goes off to rehab. I am choosing the latter. I don’t like it but I have made that choice. Yes this too shall pass....like a bad kidney stone. Hubs and I fully intent to unplug and unwind. And by then by God the count down for a bed should be weeks not months. [/QUOTE]
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