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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 722508" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I can relate to your post. My bio-family is riddled with mental illness. Over time I became accustomed to being treated badly by my own mother, sister, daughter, all of them. It's hard not to think you are the one who is wrong in the midst of so much mental illness and broken family systems. It took years of therapy to get to a point where I was ok in my own skin. </p><p></p><p>I saw that look on my mother and daughter, the "dupers delight" you speak of, it is horrifically insulting right down to the core of you......over many years I've removed myself from the sphere of influence of such toxic people. I have extremely limited exposure to my family.....including my daughter......it's the hardest thing I've ever done, it is not what I want, but it is what is. Accepting what I can't change has been so difficult and yet, it has freed me from the expectation that it will be any different than it is. It may be, but I can't know that. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry for the pain of it. I understand. There is nothing to do but let go. And, to take care of yourself. I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 722508, member: 13542"] I can relate to your post. My bio-family is riddled with mental illness. Over time I became accustomed to being treated badly by my own mother, sister, daughter, all of them. It's hard not to think you are the one who is wrong in the midst of so much mental illness and broken family systems. It took years of therapy to get to a point where I was ok in my own skin. I saw that look on my mother and daughter, the "dupers delight" you speak of, it is horrifically insulting right down to the core of you......over many years I've removed myself from the sphere of influence of such toxic people. I have extremely limited exposure to my family.....including my daughter......it's the hardest thing I've ever done, it is not what I want, but it is what is. Accepting what I can't change has been so difficult and yet, it has freed me from the expectation that it will be any different than it is. It may be, but I can't know that. I'm sorry for the pain of it. I understand. There is nothing to do but let go. And, to take care of yourself. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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