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<blockquote data-quote="WearyMom18" data-source="post: 654502" data-attributes="member: 18856"><p>Cinder...I too am dealing with a drug addicted child and it is nothing short of the most painful experience you can have BUT there is hope.</p><p></p><p>You can only control what you do, not what he does and because you cannot control it, fix it, save him or help him. You have to let it go. He is plenty old enough to help himself if he chooses to.</p><p></p><p>The day to day isn't easy at first but remind yourself that he is not homeless because of anything you did, he made choices that landed him there. Plus...if he emailed you he's fine...he's got access to the Internet somehow so he's not in a gutter, he's resourceful!</p><p></p><p>You NEED to plan a fun summer vacation! You need to take care of you and let go of the guilt because you've got nothing to feel guilty about. If anything, he needs to see that your world doesn't revolve around him, you have a life too! The world isn't going to stop or change for him, he has to do it for himself.</p><p></p><p>Say the Serenity Prayer when you feel sad. Imagine letting those feelings of guilt snd pain floating out of your mind..imagery sometimes helps me.</p><p></p><p>Love him because he's your son and accept that he is living his own life his own way. I know that sounds so simple but I know it's yard yet very important to healing your own heart.</p><p></p><p>Enjoy your husband and the peace in your lives...do things you put down because you've been consumed with worry and hurting, start a project you've been putting off..do YOU.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you, the pain eases. Post often!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyMom18, post: 654502, member: 18856"] Cinder...I too am dealing with a drug addicted child and it is nothing short of the most painful experience you can have BUT there is hope. You can only control what you do, not what he does and because you cannot control it, fix it, save him or help him. You have to let it go. He is plenty old enough to help himself if he chooses to. The day to day isn't easy at first but remind yourself that he is not homeless because of anything you did, he made choices that landed him there. Plus...if he emailed you he's fine...he's got access to the Internet somehow so he's not in a gutter, he's resourceful! You NEED to plan a fun summer vacation! You need to take care of you and let go of the guilt because you've got nothing to feel guilty about. If anything, he needs to see that your world doesn't revolve around him, you have a life too! The world isn't going to stop or change for him, he has to do it for himself. Say the Serenity Prayer when you feel sad. Imagine letting those feelings of guilt snd pain floating out of your mind..imagery sometimes helps me. Love him because he's your son and accept that he is living his own life his own way. I know that sounds so simple but I know it's yard yet very important to healing your own heart. Enjoy your husband and the peace in your lives...do things you put down because you've been consumed with worry and hurting, start a project you've been putting off..do YOU. Hugs to you, the pain eases. Post often! [/QUOTE]
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