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<blockquote data-quote="CinderMCG" data-source="post: 654515" data-attributes="member: 18583"><p>Thank you WM, I actually read your thread from March and your story sounded very familiar. </p><p></p><p>I also forgot to mention when I thought the worst yesterday I call all of the hospitals for that city (it's about 30 min away) and the police station where the shelter he was staying at was closest to. I was glad to hear he wasn't in the hospital (checked that first). Then with reservation I called the police dept. I expected them to say "even if we knew something about him we can't tell you" but to my surprise the policeman said why yes we have had contact with him because he was picked up for theft last week. On the very day I sent him $40 (I know...enabler).</p><p></p><p>Well I didn't know if he was safe at that point so it was hard to get mad, then I heard from him then I was mad. However even through my thoughts of you have got to be kidding me? Let's make the situation even worse than it is...I said nothing (over email) to him. What's the point? That really is less of an issue than him being jobless, homeless and alone (and on crack??).</p><p></p><p>It's a weird feeling, you love them to no end, want to help but can't but honestly when he is in contact me I can't wait to be away from him as he is just impossible to deal with. There has been no good conversation with him in 3 years. That is just the reality. </p><p></p><p>I don't get their mindset, I can sort of (through reading) understand that drugs are powerful and addiction can be life altering but with all of the assistance you can get I don't understand why my son and others do not at least give it a shot. My son had no problem taking money from me but advice? Not a chance. </p><p></p><p>Then there is mental illness, does he have it? Who knows...it would certainly be hard not to say he does based on how he acts, but is it possible that people are just jerks and manipulative so and so's? Is everyone that is not nice or drug dependent mentally ill? I think he has something because you just cannot believe that they way he acts and what he says can be without some form of mental illness. My father is diagnosed bi-polar 10 years ago and not one drug he has been on has helped. Not one. </p><p></p><p>Then I actually question (with respect of course for types that are obvious) what is mental illness and has it been out of control with labeling and drugs to combat it? I was prescribed Ciprilex and it made me worse, and I remember going to my doctor to say it doesn't work and he just gave me something else to take on top of it. I am not judging anyone who takes anything and I am a little anti pills as my son's start of his downfall was Oxy's and my own experience was not good at all. I do however remember when I was on Ciprilex I didn't care about anything, makes me tempted to try to relieve some of the sadness with my son but I know in the end how bad it was for me and how much better I felt not taking them. </p><p></p><p>What an awful situation this is with our kids, just at rotten crappy thing to have to deal with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CinderMCG, post: 654515, member: 18583"] Thank you WM, I actually read your thread from March and your story sounded very familiar. I also forgot to mention when I thought the worst yesterday I call all of the hospitals for that city (it's about 30 min away) and the police station where the shelter he was staying at was closest to. I was glad to hear he wasn't in the hospital (checked that first). Then with reservation I called the police dept. I expected them to say "even if we knew something about him we can't tell you" but to my surprise the policeman said why yes we have had contact with him because he was picked up for theft last week. On the very day I sent him $40 (I know...enabler). Well I didn't know if he was safe at that point so it was hard to get mad, then I heard from him then I was mad. However even through my thoughts of you have got to be kidding me? Let's make the situation even worse than it is...I said nothing (over email) to him. What's the point? That really is less of an issue than him being jobless, homeless and alone (and on crack??). It's a weird feeling, you love them to no end, want to help but can't but honestly when he is in contact me I can't wait to be away from him as he is just impossible to deal with. There has been no good conversation with him in 3 years. That is just the reality. I don't get their mindset, I can sort of (through reading) understand that drugs are powerful and addiction can be life altering but with all of the assistance you can get I don't understand why my son and others do not at least give it a shot. My son had no problem taking money from me but advice? Not a chance. Then there is mental illness, does he have it? Who knows...it would certainly be hard not to say he does based on how he acts, but is it possible that people are just jerks and manipulative so and so's? Is everyone that is not nice or drug dependent mentally ill? I think he has something because you just cannot believe that they way he acts and what he says can be without some form of mental illness. My father is diagnosed bi-polar 10 years ago and not one drug he has been on has helped. Not one. Then I actually question (with respect of course for types that are obvious) what is mental illness and has it been out of control with labeling and drugs to combat it? I was prescribed Ciprilex and it made me worse, and I remember going to my doctor to say it doesn't work and he just gave me something else to take on top of it. I am not judging anyone who takes anything and I am a little anti pills as my son's start of his downfall was Oxy's and my own experience was not good at all. I do however remember when I was on Ciprilex I didn't care about anything, makes me tempted to try to relieve some of the sadness with my son but I know in the end how bad it was for me and how much better I felt not taking them. What an awful situation this is with our kids, just at rotten crappy thing to have to deal with. [/QUOTE]
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