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<blockquote data-quote="Praecepta" data-source="post: 690087" data-attributes="member: 20025"><p>Many of the following are things required after they get into legal trouble. Might want to start with some of these things now...</p><p></p><p>24 hour constant supervision. Take your eyes off of him for a second and he will be doing whatever he can, which he is not supposed to be doing. Lock up EVERYTHING in the house to prevent huffing, theft, and destruction of your property. Learn about huffing and what they can huff. The list is very long and includes cleaning chemicals, WD-40, Sharpie pens, mouth wash, PAM cooking spray, whipped cream, automotive products, butane/lighters, etc. Just about everything in the house! Read all about "huffing" so you can catch it if it starts.</p><p></p><p>You can also put alarms on rooms in your house (like a driveway alarm - beeper in your bedroom) for rooms he should not be going into at night when you are asleep. (We must sleep!)</p><p></p><p>Basically if possible, do not leave him alone - take him places with you. Supervise him when he is playing with other kids. Keep him within "arms length" when in a store or other public places. Watch him CONSTANTLY when he is on the internet. See what he is printing out. Or make it so you have to get whatever he prints out. Best would be a non-smartphone cell phone if he must have a cell phone. (Talk only.)</p><p></p><p>Additional supervision can include sitting with him in classes at school - randomly. (If there are behavior problems.) His knowing you will do this can go a LONG way toward getting him to behave at school. Also monitor his grades/homework daily on your school's internet parent computer connection. You can catch it right away if he is not turning in his homework and saying (lying) that he has no homework.</p><p></p><p>"In school suspension" (never allowed to be by himself unsupervised) may come in handy if he is getting in trouble at school. Talk with all his teachers weekly to see what he is doing/not doing. (The truth!)</p><p></p><p>And positive feedback as opposed to negative punishment - can work like magic. Try to catch him doing good things and reward him. The key thing I read about this is "Normal parenting does not work". Keep repeating that to yourself!</p><p></p><p>Another thing to repeat to yourself: "It is not your fault!" These things can be genetic and not necessarily how the kid was raised by his parents. Parents with these kids have other kids who are perfectly normal - raised by the same parents!</p><p></p><p>As for criminal and destructive behavior, I have had trouble understanding these things. Because I am not like that! But I recently read a book about an adult with this condition. He delighted in doing things he could get away with doing. He KNEW he would be caught, but if he could have a minimum of punishment due to no one being able to prove "he did it", then it was a success to him! Made his day!</p><p></p><p>With that said, you may want to install video cameras inside and outside your home as well. Not allowed in bedrooms, bathrooms, or where a person would expect privacy. Everywhere else is fair game.</p><p></p><p>Do not leave him alone with animals.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Praecepta, post: 690087, member: 20025"] Many of the following are things required after they get into legal trouble. Might want to start with some of these things now... 24 hour constant supervision. Take your eyes off of him for a second and he will be doing whatever he can, which he is not supposed to be doing. Lock up EVERYTHING in the house to prevent huffing, theft, and destruction of your property. Learn about huffing and what they can huff. The list is very long and includes cleaning chemicals, WD-40, Sharpie pens, mouth wash, PAM cooking spray, whipped cream, automotive products, butane/lighters, etc. Just about everything in the house! Read all about "huffing" so you can catch it if it starts. You can also put alarms on rooms in your house (like a driveway alarm - beeper in your bedroom) for rooms he should not be going into at night when you are asleep. (We must sleep!) Basically if possible, do not leave him alone - take him places with you. Supervise him when he is playing with other kids. Keep him within "arms length" when in a store or other public places. Watch him CONSTANTLY when he is on the internet. See what he is printing out. Or make it so you have to get whatever he prints out. Best would be a non-smartphone cell phone if he must have a cell phone. (Talk only.) Additional supervision can include sitting with him in classes at school - randomly. (If there are behavior problems.) His knowing you will do this can go a LONG way toward getting him to behave at school. Also monitor his grades/homework daily on your school's internet parent computer connection. You can catch it right away if he is not turning in his homework and saying (lying) that he has no homework. "In school suspension" (never allowed to be by himself unsupervised) may come in handy if he is getting in trouble at school. Talk with all his teachers weekly to see what he is doing/not doing. (The truth!) And positive feedback as opposed to negative punishment - can work like magic. Try to catch him doing good things and reward him. The key thing I read about this is "Normal parenting does not work". Keep repeating that to yourself! Another thing to repeat to yourself: "It is not your fault!" These things can be genetic and not necessarily how the kid was raised by his parents. Parents with these kids have other kids who are perfectly normal - raised by the same parents! As for criminal and destructive behavior, I have had trouble understanding these things. Because I am not like that! But I recently read a book about an adult with this condition. He delighted in doing things he could get away with doing. He KNEW he would be caught, but if he could have a minimum of punishment due to no one being able to prove "he did it", then it was a success to him! Made his day! With that said, you may want to install video cameras inside and outside your home as well. Not allowed in bedrooms, bathrooms, or where a person would expect privacy. Everywhere else is fair game. Do not leave him alone with animals. [/QUOTE]
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