Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Its been mentioned before that she exhibits some questionable behaviors and tha she may be a budding difficult child. Well, here's another to add to that list.
She asked to work on the computer tonight to find a picture for a summer school thing. I first said no, because I was outside, but she's been using the internet and we've had NO problems, and I was only going to be outside for 5 or 10 more minutes, then I'd be in and out, mostly in. The computer is very close to the door, at the end of the kitchen and in no way private. I cruised in and out and walked by her purposely several times and all seemed well til the last time I came in.
She shut down really fast. Then she brought the picture she printed, kept saying how she "just" got finished. Used "just" too many times. I got suspicious and looked, she'd managed to shut off the safe search and had been searching porn images.
A few rainbow searches, then a bunch of porn searches.
I've been concerned for some time that we will have trouble with her with regards to sex and boys. She has no self esteem and a very poor self image, and will take ANY attention from ANYONE. Claims to like anything that is mentioned by any person she's with, etc....I think I've posted that concern here before.
I am not happy with her. Obviously, she knew it was wrong, cause she knew to hide it from me, and I trusted her to use the easy child in the right manner. I'm mad at myself for not watching closer, but dang, I was RIGHT there!!! But I'm not sure where to go with it or what to do. She needs to know she's violated trust, but I don't want to make an already borderline child worse, Know what I mean??
If I ask her about it, she will lie. She has proven this repeatedly. If I ask her why she did it, $1000 bucks says she'll stick with "I don't know" and when that answer is pushed, she'll make something up. I'm not sure she does know why she does this junk.
Any suggestions? Besides a better net nanny and spanking myself for letting her do this?
She asked to work on the computer tonight to find a picture for a summer school thing. I first said no, because I was outside, but she's been using the internet and we've had NO problems, and I was only going to be outside for 5 or 10 more minutes, then I'd be in and out, mostly in. The computer is very close to the door, at the end of the kitchen and in no way private. I cruised in and out and walked by her purposely several times and all seemed well til the last time I came in.
She shut down really fast. Then she brought the picture she printed, kept saying how she "just" got finished. Used "just" too many times. I got suspicious and looked, she'd managed to shut off the safe search and had been searching porn images.
A few rainbow searches, then a bunch of porn searches.
I've been concerned for some time that we will have trouble with her with regards to sex and boys. She has no self esteem and a very poor self image, and will take ANY attention from ANYONE. Claims to like anything that is mentioned by any person she's with, etc....I think I've posted that concern here before.
I am not happy with her. Obviously, she knew it was wrong, cause she knew to hide it from me, and I trusted her to use the easy child in the right manner. I'm mad at myself for not watching closer, but dang, I was RIGHT there!!! But I'm not sure where to go with it or what to do. She needs to know she's violated trust, but I don't want to make an already borderline child worse, Know what I mean??
If I ask her about it, she will lie. She has proven this repeatedly. If I ask her why she did it, $1000 bucks says she'll stick with "I don't know" and when that answer is pushed, she'll make something up. I'm not sure she does know why she does this junk.
Any suggestions? Besides a better net nanny and spanking myself for letting her do this?