So easy child is not on board at all whatsoever with his diagnosis of Asperger's. He totally can't see in himself what others do. And there's this kid in one of his classes, that is also autistic, who is lower on the spectrum given the behaviors my son describes. This kid, who I will call "P" frequently has major meltdowns in class. If P doesn't understand something the teacher is trying to explain, he cries, and loudly. If he gets frustrated, he bangs his head and his fists down on the desk and screams out. He also has no friends and is frequently made fun of. My easy child, Monkey, has several friends, despite some unusual/odd behaviors, and he never has meltdowns at school. Sure once he gets home he has tantrums if things aren't working right (computer and cell phone mainly) and he will break stuff and scream out when frustrated. But he never does this in school. He is never hyper at school like he is at home, either. He is rather shy and quiet at school. He holds himself together really well at school, and when he comes home he lets loose. So Monkey sees P acting out at school and he knows P is autistic. Because P and Monkey are very different, he does not believe he is Asperger's at all. I tried to explain to him that there are different types of the disorder and they can manifest themselves in very different ways, but he still doesn't get it. He is offended to be called autistic by psychiatrist. A couple of months ago P got mad at Monkey. Some other kid made fun of P and Monkey heard it. He laughed at something this other boy said. Because easy child laughed, P got mad and started punching Monkey hard in the face and stomach. There were witnesses who saw the whole thing, and both boys were called into the principal's office. The principal then called me and told me what had happened, but she didn't tell me who the boy was that punched my son. At first I was furious. I wanted this boy suspended and I wanted the harshest possible punishment for him. When I picked up Monkey later that day, I asked him who hit him. When he told me it was P, I suddenly felt sorry for him. I wasn't angry anymore. Poor guy couldn't help himself. And easy child laughing at him provoked it. I felt bad for P for being so poorly misunderstood. I told easy child to cut him a break because, even though P did something bad, he was acting out due to his autism. easy child couldn't believe I was actually sorta defending this kid. I tried, yet again, to explain to him that P has a disorder that makes it hard to control his emotions, kind of like easy child does at home when his computer freezes up on him or his cell phone doesn't work. easy child just doesn't get it. Vehemently denies his disorder. How can I make him see that being Asperger's isn't a bad thing? Are there any books out there that can help him? He is a very advanced reader, so even a book for teens or young adults would be appropriate. I just hate the thought of easy child growing up hating part of who he is. How do I make him understand he is a great person and his Asperger's is only a small part of it?