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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 42159" data-attributes="member: 3"><p><span style='font-size: 11pt'>I think teens even easy child teens are in such a state of change and emotional growth that they are miserable, inpatient and intolerable. It doesn't last forever for most easy child's but it's a good 2 yr process from my experience. It's part of the growing up and preparation to separate from who they are as a child to who they are as an independent adult male. It's not pleasant but I think it's necessary. </p><p>Doesn't mean there are not snotty, entitled easy child's. Fortunately, if you use wise parenting and are patient they come around. </p><p></p><p>I am Aunt Fam to 2 nephews. I know the oldest is close to me and baby sis uses me. Sometimes she uses me as the reward or as the threat of punishment. Her easy child(both are easy child's) is attached to Aunt Fam but I am careful to draw the line. No one needs two moms and I was "mom" to my baby sis, my own kids and I really don't want or need to be mom to anyone else. While in the early years baby sis needed some support and some of the wisdom experience gives,I know that if I was too helpful she would come to resent me and think I was being critical of her parenting. When one is too helpful in raising a child that is not yours, there will be resentment and sense of being judged by the actual parent. I don't know if this gives you any insight but I thought I would share my experience from the other side of the street. </p><p></p><p>I hope your easy child comes to understand your struggle and he grows up but you may have to reread some of the parenting suggestions for raising easy child teens. They are almost from another planet. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 42159, member: 3"] <span style='font-size: 11pt'>I think teens even easy child teens are in such a state of change and emotional growth that they are miserable, inpatient and intolerable. It doesn't last forever for most easy child's but it's a good 2 yr process from my experience. It's part of the growing up and preparation to separate from who they are as a child to who they are as an independent adult male. It's not pleasant but I think it's necessary. Doesn't mean there are not snotty, entitled easy child's. Fortunately, if you use wise parenting and are patient they come around. I am Aunt Fam to 2 nephews. I know the oldest is close to me and baby sis uses me. Sometimes she uses me as the reward or as the threat of punishment. Her easy child(both are easy child's) is attached to Aunt Fam but I am careful to draw the line. No one needs two moms and I was "mom" to my baby sis, my own kids and I really don't want or need to be mom to anyone else. While in the early years baby sis needed some support and some of the wisdom experience gives,I know that if I was too helpful she would come to resent me and think I was being critical of her parenting. When one is too helpful in raising a child that is not yours, there will be resentment and sense of being judged by the actual parent. I don't know if this gives you any insight but I thought I would share my experience from the other side of the street. I hope your easy child comes to understand your struggle and he grows up but you may have to reread some of the parenting suggestions for raising easy child teens. They are almost from another planet. </span> [/QUOTE]
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